Nadal81
17-04-2009, 03:50 PM
Hello everyone.
I found out about this forum as I was surfing the net seeking for advices in many other forums. Then I stumbled upon this forum, which I found very interesting. However, more importantly, I am here to seek help in this very appropriate section of this forum. If I make any errors, please pardon me.
Well, I have been emotionally attached to a Filipina girl for 2 years now. She is no FL or pub girl or whatever as I knew her from school. Its been 2years that we've been together and I have even moved in to a rented apartment with her for over a year now, yet she doesn't seem to bore me. I really love her, and would do anything for her. But here's the scary part. I love her so much that I have put everything aside; my career, my family, my part-time eduation, myself.
As I moved in with her, I see less of my family, and my parents are often worried and I am also not close to my siblings anymore. Also, I don't go out with my friends anymore because everytime I do, she will accuse me of going out on a date with another girl. When I am at home with my family, she will call me once in a while even at 3am or 4am just to check if I'm at home. She always picks a fight with me over stupid things and accusing me of things I didn't do. One time, she went back home during the term break and when she returned to Singapore and saw that I was talking to a new classmate, she started accusing me of having sex with her and everything. Its been months now and she is still at it although the girl has long gone. The best thing is, I was never caught by her being unfaithful or anything. She always thinks negative of my faithfulness and then accuses me like as though it really happened. It almost seems as though she's got psychiatric issues. And this has caused me tremendous stress which I cannot handle anymore.
Lately, over the past 2 months, I have asked her for a time-out and more times, a break-up, which she would agree. However, two days later, she will sms me like nothing happened, and I would fall into her trap. But the same thing would happen again and she would create her own stories everytime Im not around with her. And start accusing me of doing this and that. At first, I tried to put up with it. But these days, I've really lost my cool and often, I will just flare up on the phone even at the dinner table with the family, or a gathering with my relatives, or supper with my friends. Even those who have not met her already have a terrible impression of her.
I know she loves me a lot and she's very possessive over me and overly jealous. That's very common in filipinas. But this is driving me insane. I'm slowly losing my life and freedom. In fact, this girl is not the typical filipina you see. Her father is European and she has very fair skin, natural dark brown hair and does not look filipina. She's very hot and has many suitors, even rich guys from our school, driving nice sports cars. I'm saying this in case you people think I'm rich.
So you see, as much as I am mesmerised by her beauty and love her with every inch of my heart, this attitude of hers turns me off real bad. It's so bad that it sometimes shed me tears! I have warned her and gave her many last chances to change but that never happened.
As much as I love her so much, I need to get my life back. We are on a break again now but Im sure she will sms me in a few days. My friends have been bringing me out pubbing, in a bid to make me forget her. They even hooked me up with pub girls. But I am still thinking of her. In brief, we love each others company very much but the problem is, she only wants me to herself. What now? Please advise.
I found out about this forum as I was surfing the net seeking for advices in many other forums. Then I stumbled upon this forum, which I found very interesting. However, more importantly, I am here to seek help in this very appropriate section of this forum. If I make any errors, please pardon me.
Well, I have been emotionally attached to a Filipina girl for 2 years now. She is no FL or pub girl or whatever as I knew her from school. Its been 2years that we've been together and I have even moved in to a rented apartment with her for over a year now, yet she doesn't seem to bore me. I really love her, and would do anything for her. But here's the scary part. I love her so much that I have put everything aside; my career, my family, my part-time eduation, myself.
As I moved in with her, I see less of my family, and my parents are often worried and I am also not close to my siblings anymore. Also, I don't go out with my friends anymore because everytime I do, she will accuse me of going out on a date with another girl. When I am at home with my family, she will call me once in a while even at 3am or 4am just to check if I'm at home. She always picks a fight with me over stupid things and accusing me of things I didn't do. One time, she went back home during the term break and when she returned to Singapore and saw that I was talking to a new classmate, she started accusing me of having sex with her and everything. Its been months now and she is still at it although the girl has long gone. The best thing is, I was never caught by her being unfaithful or anything. She always thinks negative of my faithfulness and then accuses me like as though it really happened. It almost seems as though she's got psychiatric issues. And this has caused me tremendous stress which I cannot handle anymore.
Lately, over the past 2 months, I have asked her for a time-out and more times, a break-up, which she would agree. However, two days later, she will sms me like nothing happened, and I would fall into her trap. But the same thing would happen again and she would create her own stories everytime Im not around with her. And start accusing me of doing this and that. At first, I tried to put up with it. But these days, I've really lost my cool and often, I will just flare up on the phone even at the dinner table with the family, or a gathering with my relatives, or supper with my friends. Even those who have not met her already have a terrible impression of her.
I know she loves me a lot and she's very possessive over me and overly jealous. That's very common in filipinas. But this is driving me insane. I'm slowly losing my life and freedom. In fact, this girl is not the typical filipina you see. Her father is European and she has very fair skin, natural dark brown hair and does not look filipina. She's very hot and has many suitors, even rich guys from our school, driving nice sports cars. I'm saying this in case you people think I'm rich.
So you see, as much as I am mesmerised by her beauty and love her with every inch of my heart, this attitude of hers turns me off real bad. It's so bad that it sometimes shed me tears! I have warned her and gave her many last chances to change but that never happened.
As much as I love her so much, I need to get my life back. We are on a break again now but Im sure she will sms me in a few days. My friends have been bringing me out pubbing, in a bid to make me forget her. They even hooked me up with pub girls. But I am still thinking of her. In brief, we love each others company very much but the problem is, she only wants me to herself. What now? Please advise.