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JediSkull
17-09-2008, 07:15 AM
sighz........ dilemma.....

Here's my story:
both are china chinese...... one rich one poor. Told some bros about my problem.

One is a Temasek Poly Grad. (Rich girl from szechuan, tall and pretty was working for awhile till she got pregnant and went back told her parents!) When I bought clearblue and she tested pregnant in Singapore, she asked me "zen me ban?". I told her "bu zhi dao.) she take water bottle and hit me.......... then I had to reason to her that this is not ONLY MY PROBLEM BUT ITS OUR PROBLEM. Then she calm down abit....... Her father is a banker(dunno which farmer bank!) and mother is a doctor. Mum knows I'm currently a full time student and offerred to pay for the wedding that would be held in China. Keeps pressuring me to go hold the wedding.........


Another WAS applying for NYP (got to know her from my fellow china schoolmates!) Very caring girl, goes out with me always take food and feed me...... makes me feel good. (petite SYT from Henan was applying for design course in NYP, was waiting for placement till she got pregnant and I told her to go back n wait for my news) A few weeks ago, she smsed me that she dreamt I was talking to friends about having 2 GFs and DUNNO WHICH ONE TO CHOOSE! And when she called out to me..... I ignored her.... Which made her very very sad. She asked if what she dreamt is TRUE?!?! It was impossible that she knew I had 2 GFs......(now I really bliff that girls' sixth sense can be so eerily ZHUN!)
her mum recently also talked to me, tell me not to abandon her daughter becoz her family members are poor farmers! Never ask money from me, juz say if possible come to village to hold wedding. Her mother like tat talk to me on the phone, really makes my heart soften alot.......

I calculated and knows it wun cost much (estimate less than SGD10k) Houses cost about SGD50-60k (in the suburbs)...... But looking at the bloody downturn in the US economy, I'm thinking property prices in China's gonna plunge even further........ Its really not a good time to buy a house for my gf....but seems like a necessity as I understand that the village is a comfortable place for my gf's current condition.

Both 3months+ Pregnant liao!!! Both call me everyday asking me when I going China! I think I am going nuts liao lar............ I really no heart to ask my young SYTs to go abort!!! :(

Low Sex Drive ever since I know both were pregnant...... And yes both pregnant ARE MY KIDS(they'r not WLs nor FLs.)

Most frens ask me to abandon both or choose one....... but I still cannot decide and time is running out!!!! :(

(PS: I dun think I wan my kids to be commy bastards!!! OMG!!! WHAT SHOULD I DO SIA?!?!)

ahbengsony
17-09-2008, 07:55 AM
Well, bro . i do not know how to classified you. by letting two go makes you a bastard. but knowing prc girls..... i take it with a pinch of salt. end of the day, did u really cum inside or not ? u know very well yrself. explain to the girls respectively you are not ready to be a papa now. Cos u r still schooling but responsibilty is imperative. i never encourage abortions cos the kid is innocent....

three ways from my own view

1) be a bastard and 'vanish' from the thin air
2) tell the girls frankly the whole things and see their opinions .
3) u be responsible from now till the kids are born and give them up to those couple who are childless. At least , u know the kids are given a chance to see daylight and to see AMERICANO porns when they grow up ( joking) and you would be pleased that you did not kill them by abortion. I regret very very very deeply of one mistake i have made in the past.Again, i do not know your age ( mature boh ? ) salary scale ( able to afford ) .

But i sincerely hope that dont put abortion as your first choice !

Good Luck.

block11
17-09-2008, 08:06 AM
hmmm... you did raw with both? no precautions? haizzz :(

i think you should be responsible to both girls and tell them the truth. whatever happens, your conscience will be clear :rolleyes:

mebirdie
17-09-2008, 08:17 AM
If you cannot decide, why not make it 3 Pregnant. :mad:
2 months liao, you still have not make a decision. :mad:

As spoken, there is no perfect solution but you have to choose 1 that benefit you most. Regret short term rather than regret entire life. You should know that no matter what you do, not everybody will be happy. BUT never never pay a visit to China. Else you will probably vanish from the world. :(

Waste our bloody time. :mad:

Highjoys
17-09-2008, 08:46 AM
If you cannot decide, why not make it 3 Pregnant. :mad:
2 months liao, you still have not make a decision. :mad:

As spoken, there is no perfect solution but you have to choose 1 that benefit you most. Regret short term rather than regret entire life. You should know that no matter what you do, not everybody will be happy. BUT never never pay a visit to China. Else you will probably vanish from the world. :(

Waste our bloody time. :mad:

ANswer Singapore Govt 's call!!!! Make more Babies!!!! I think it is Siao !!! Even if I got straight flush (Tong Hua Shun) in playing cards, it is even better than having a straight flush in getting a row of gals pregnant... only need money to pay no money to win

Xgenre
17-09-2008, 10:09 AM
Please be a man and decide fast. There is only a certain window if abortion is chosen. If it's too late, it's very risky to abort. You may not want to marry either of them but please don't do anything that will kill them.

I wonder if it's possible for us to marry both and not register any of the weddings in singapore. At least this way, both ladies get a 'husband'. Not sure if it's illegal though. If u hold 2 customary weddings. U probably can't put your name as the father in the child's birth cert.

mebirdie
17-09-2008, 10:21 AM
U probably can't put your name as the father in the child's birth cert.

Putting name as father is alright in Singapore.
You only cannot have 2 wives at a time. :)

aczeta76
17-09-2008, 10:25 AM
If u dun register your marriage, ur kids will have no Hu Kou (citizen papers) in China and it would be tough for them to go to school etc.

Dun be such a jerk and disappear. I have no comments since it is your life and it is too late to abort too without severe health issues to the mummies.

"Kudos" for destroying 4 lives directly and hurting many more... I hope u sleep well at nite.

slider_72
17-09-2008, 10:48 AM
.....Mum knows I'm currently a full time student and offerred to pay for the wedding that would be held in China..........

I calculated and knows it wun cost much (estimate less than SGD10k) Houses cost about SGD50-60k (in the suburbs)...... But looking at the bloody downturn in the US economy, I'm thinking property prices in China's gonna plunge even further........ Its really not a good time to buy a house for my gf....but seems like a necessity as I understand that the village is a comfortable place for my gf's current condition.


Wah, nowadays full time student also very rich it seems.

For most people, falling in love with a WL already bad enough, for you two-timing a couple of non-WL students is worse. And to top it off, getting both of them pregnant.... I have no sympathies for you.

Abortion is murder. Don't even think about this.

colins
17-09-2008, 01:54 PM
Congrats bro jediskull! So fast becoming father and of 2 children at the same time. To escape, to marry, both equally bad decisions. But if you choose either one, tell the other as early as possible so she can take the necessary action. One day, you will be haunted by your decision, but until that day, all you can do now is to save your skin.

As one joke goes, choose the one with the biggest boobs! Only that it sounds truly as stupid as measuring them by their riches.

But there's one way to save you, and listen carefully. Come clean with both of them, see who can accept you.

juzplay
17-09-2008, 02:02 PM
As one joke goes, choose the one with the biggest boobs! Only that it sounds truly as stupid as measuring them by their riches.

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Quirky: Pick the one with the sweetest look and body...

Self: Pick the one who loves u most

Truth: U r in deep shit whatever u do...karma

Assassin
17-09-2008, 02:14 PM
If u wanna choose 1 between them, then choose the poor one since her parents are poor farmers. If none of them wants to abort the baby then at least the poor lady has you to take care of her and her child. Her life would be in a total mess if you abandon her and she gotta find a job to raise her child. Worst come to worst, she might have no choice but to become an FL...do you want this to happen? :(

FL Lover
17-09-2008, 02:27 PM
To TS,

U so lucky ..... got so much engery to bonk until tow of yor gfs preg. Why didnt u take any safety precautions and now you are in trouble, you panicked.

Some bros agreed that you do not need any sympathy on that. I agreed on certain angle. You are an educated person and yet in the heat of passion, you did not take any safety precaution, go raw and caused both yor gfs to suffer. Somemore you dare to two timer your gfs while you are still studying without any means of earning power...

Consider the following factors:

1) Are you able to support both gals finanically?
2) How abt yor family? Do they support u? DO they know abt it?
3) Are you sure you are able to handle both gals if both give birth?
4) Will it be fair to both gals if you decided to keep both?
5) What will happen if both gers ask you to marry them legally? Can you in the first place do that in SG?

I do not approve abortions but in this caes, there is no choice. If you think you are not able to support both gers at the sme time, YOu have to let go one of them. Be a man and faced it. Be fair to the gals and at the same time, be fair to you.

Be faithful to the other one whom you decided to be with. Dont make such stupid mistakes again. I hope you will grow up.

God is fair. You do good deeds, you get yor rewards now or later. Do bad deeds, retributions might fall on you.

I have known a true life encounter with a friend of mine. He faced the same issue with you when he is young. Got 1 gal preg. He took the quick way out. Vanish into the air. Guess what.... God is fair. He was bonking a very young thai ger. Good bonk and the thai ger show him her family photo. Her mum happened to be his gf who he dumped when she is preg. He did not sleep in peace up till now cause he had no idea if the ger is his blood and whether he had actually f..ked his daugther.

Xgenre
17-09-2008, 03:10 PM
If you watched Taiwanese Hokkien drama, your 2 gfs will bear u a son and a daughter. 18 years later, they may meet each other in university and fall in love. just when they are about to get married 5 years later, you realise the other mum is your wife too.. and then....

:D

DO_YOU_BJ
17-09-2008, 04:23 PM
Congrats.
Do not jump the gun into investments of property watsoever.
Be a man, and face it.
Go marry them both.
But wait.
After baby born, MAKE SURE DO DNA TEST at private hospital to cfm its yours.
In Sichuan, go to Victoria's Female Hospital, in Chengdu City...a private high end hospital.
The other dun know but move fwd only after the DNA confirmation.
Other than that, all halt!
Dun panic, one step at a time.
But if both cfm yours, then be a man & keep the 2 kids lor.
That's what i'll do anyway......

EtherC
17-09-2008, 04:33 PM
Between the Devil and the deep blue sea. I don't envy your position. Since lives are at stake here I won't become the devil's advocate by advising which girl to dump. Bro Colins has offered a sensible suggestion which is to come clean with both girls. Sit down and have a good talk with the two girls. Consider your own financials and alternatives like giving the baby up for adoption etc. A DNA test to show if you're the father should be performed as well, although expensive it is less expensive than parenting someone else's baby. Call the various hospitals to check if their lab does prenatal paternity testing. Mount Elizabeth & Thomson Med Center might have this service. Time is not on your side as abortion has a legal limit of 24mths in SG. So you better get off your ass and do something. Condoms are very friendly, learn to use them before you're forced to learn responsibility.

colins
17-09-2008, 04:55 PM
Congrats.
Do not jump the gun into investments of property watsoever.
Be a man, and face it.
Go marry them both.
But wait.
After baby born, MAKE SURE DO DNA TEST at private hospital to cfm its yours.
In Sichuan, go to Victoria's Female Hospital, in Chengdu City...a private high end hospital.
The other dun know but move fwd only after the DNA confirmation.
Other than that, all halt!
Dun panic, one step at a time.
But if both cfm yours, then be a man & keep the 2 kids lor.
That's what i'll do anyway......

Eh bro, TS is still full time student, guess who buy milk powder? Go China also need to wait for school holidays, you see the situation?

Bro etherc, I think the girls also have the right to choose. It puts into perspective for bro TS that relationships are never a choice between who is the better one. This is selfishness. Esp when life is at stake now, if the man still think only for himself or how to advance his own position, something is very wrong.

naemlo
17-09-2008, 05:07 PM
(PS: I dun think I wan my kids to be commy bastards!!! OMG!!! WHAT SHOULD I DO SIA?!?!)

Abortion is the only choice unless u r able to support them. :rolleyes:

Frankly speaking, I want to verbally f u but f u also no use now. :o

EtherC
17-09-2008, 06:37 PM
It takes Jediskull and the girls to get pregnant. This is not Jediskull's responsibility alone. He did not rape those 2 girls. It was consensual sex, remember that. Obviously the responsibility to the babies lies with all three and their families to settle in a way which is best for the babies and themselves at this point in time whether be it to raise them, give them up for adoption or lastly go for abortion. Its their lives and their choices. I did not in anyway say the girls are not part of the equation.

Marrying them both is naturally the best solution if both girls are agreeable. However bear in mind that marriage involves the families as well. Are the 3 families going to concede? Not sure when they legislated polygamy in Singapore or China, but from what I know polygamy is still illegal in both countries.

The info about prenatal paternity testing is given on the grounds that there have been cases where husbands filing for divorce realize through DNA tests that the offspring is not theirs. And guess what, many of these men married a pregnant girl. Its only fair to ascertain the truth. So is it fair to these men that they have been denied the truth? Responsibility is all good but why be blindly responsible for the mistakes others made?

Adoption is a great approach if the concerned parties are willing. The baby will have a family evaluated to be ready to care for a child. It is a viable option as well?

While I do not encourage abortion, nevertheless it was legislated in SG and is still legal. Why? It is to give people a fresh start, a final choice when there are no other options according to the concerned parties. Abortion should not be seen as a means of shirking responsibility. To me it is murder. The fetus is alive, it has a heartbeat and a brain. Who is to say that there is no soul in such a little one?

However, this is a life choice to be made by Jediskull, his girlfriends and their families. All I provided is the legal limit info. Time is indeed not on his side should abortion be their choice. As always I have merely provided facts to this forum. Decisions, interpretations and opinions are solely that of forummers. If people think my information is flawed perhaps I should stop posting. Don't get paid anyways.



Eh bro, TS is still full time student, guess who buy milk powder? Go China also need to wait for school holidays, you see the situation?

Bro etherc, I think the girls also have the right to choose. It puts into perspective for bro TS that relationships are never a choice between who is the better one. This is selfishness. Esp when life is at stake now, if the man still think only for himself or how to advance his own position, something is very wrong.

colins
17-09-2008, 06:59 PM
Always so touchy eh...relak relak

No your information is not flawed. Not that I can stop you, but pls continue to post. I always refer to the attitude rather than the actions, in this case, the manner the post was written shows a lot of that.

DO_YOU_BJ
17-09-2008, 07:57 PM
Dun always be too eager to drop the axe over the head.
This is a kid....someone who doesnt know crap abt responsibilities.
Just felt lucky cos he had the pleasures of 2 pussies serving him.
Selfish, he is, stupid, confirm.
This is not the 1st time i've come across such stories.
If you're a responsible man, then KEEP THE BABY!
If you have to break your back to fight through this, good for you.
If you decide to abort for your own self, then also good for you but i'd luv to see your karma...2 lives lost just for you own sake.

You did this, stop whining and face it like a man like you felt when farking those 2 chicks.
Since you got no income, i really suggest you CONFESS to your folks.
If anyone can really intervene to help you now, its only your parents.
This is a situation you cant run away from.

fallen_angel
17-09-2008, 09:15 PM
Best is to come clean to both of them parties. and see what's their decision. If they stick want to bear your kid after knowing that you are an asshole, then good for you. You might well take the cake and eat it too. If they want to abort the child after knowing the truth, at least you have no more dilemma.

To take 3-4 months and not decided, you are a complete asshole. :mad:

fallen_angel
17-09-2008, 09:19 PM
It takes Jediskull and the girls to get pregnant. This is not Jediskull's responsibility alone. He did not rape those 2 girls. It was consensual sex, remember that.

would agree that the gal n the guy is both responsible on that part. But nobody ask him to shot gun in!! and having unprotected sex to different gals at the same time, he is exposing them to various diseases.... :(

aakumu
17-09-2008, 11:07 PM
Abortion is the only choice unless u r able to support them. :rolleyes:

Frankly speaking, I want to verbally f u but f u also no use now. :o

Hi bro,
I have a new found respect for you.
My humble two cents.

porscheclub
17-09-2008, 11:27 PM
Xiao liao :eek:

Other than what the brothers here have said, I would seriously ask if your are ready to marry? Can you be a good husband, father & do you seriously love either of the girl or were you out having fun?

Don't let their background & riches affect your vision too much.

Think deep about this. It's a lifetime of happiness about 3 adults & two children. Either way, you are responsible and time is running out. Have you spoken to your parents or a close relative?

& yes, I would say come clean to the gals. It's not just your decision, they have the right to decide too.

jojogigi
17-09-2008, 11:40 PM
i think the main story here is to advice him not to fuck him. thats why he posted this. But TS. U shouldnt have shoot the bullet to hit the figure 8. But if u really shot inside her. This really means u never ever thought of her getting pregnant. So both are pregnant now. You cant have best of both worlds. Choose one. either one u are gonna get it good. You can ran away from them. But most prob pple will despise u as a jerk.

This is a very hard choice to make. But also this is part of being an adult. We often make many difficult choices. So welcome to adulthood. But i didn't expect you would have 2 babies as presents.

I dunno whether to sympathise you or be happy for you. hmmm.
anyway God bless.

JediSkull
17-09-2008, 11:42 PM
To TS,

U so lucky ..... got so much engery to bonk until tow of yor gfs preg. Why didnt u take any safety precautions and now you are in trouble, you panicked.

Some bros agreed that you do not need any sympathy on that. I agreed on certain angle. You are an educated person and yet in the heat of passion, you did not take any safety precaution, go raw and caused both yor gfs to suffer. Somemore you dare to two timer your gfs while you are still studying without any means of earning power...

Consider the following factors:

1) Are you able to support both gals finanically?
2) How abt yor family? Do they support u? DO they know abt it?
3) Are you sure you are able to handle both gals if both give birth?
4) Will it be fair to both gals if you decided to keep both?
5) What will happen if both gers ask you to marry them legally? Can you in the first place do that in SG?

I do not approve abortions but in this caes, there is no choice. If you think you are not able to support both gers at the sme time, YOu have to let go one of them. Be a man and faced it. Be fair to the gals and at the same time, be fair to you.

Be faithful to the other one whom you decided to be with. Dont make such stupid mistakes again. I hope you will grow up.

God is fair. You do good deeds, you get yor rewards now or later. Do bad deeds, retributions might fall on you.

I have known a true life encounter with a friend of mine. He faced the same issue with you when he is young. Got 1 gal preg. He took the quick way out. Vanish into the air. Guess what.... God is fair. He was bonking a very young thai ger. Good bonk and the thai ger show him her family photo. Her mum happened to be his gf who he dumped when she is preg. He did not sleep in peace up till now cause he had no idea if the ger is his blood and whether he had actually f..ked his daugther.

I did raw thinking I can get morning after pills! anyway went to pharmacy and found out only can get with doctor's prescription and I was 2-3 days late liao! I do my own businesses besides being a full time student........ My family's well off too (though I haven't take money from parents since I'm 18)
I'm an overaged student near 30. But I can definitely afford to upkeep my gfs. Only problem now is whether my parents can accept my china gf/gfs...(I dunno if i should tell them one 1st or tell them I have two gfs pregnant.)

I'm definitely not a bastard. Both girls I love. May sound selfish or stupid! But I really do love both gfs. I don't think I favour one over another. They'r two types of girls that I like in terms of looks. And in terms of character, the rich girl is outspoken and jovial though can be abit violent(she claims she's like that only when she got pregnant. Bad temper when pregnant.) The poor girl is demure and caring but not as fun to be with. But BOTH girls I can communicate my heart with. We shared many things about views in life. In fact both gfs are against abortion..... ONLY PROBLEM NOW IS I FEEL I HAVE LET THEM DOWN COZ ITS LIKE I DUN LOVE ANY OF THEM WHEN I GOT BOTH PREGNANT....... THEY MUST BE THINKING I'M A PLAYBOY!!! :(

JediSkull
17-09-2008, 11:48 PM
would agree that the gal n the guy is both responsible on that part. But nobody ask him to shot gun in!! and having unprotected sex to different gals at the same time, he is exposing them to various diseases.... :(

I have regular checkups at DSC and have stopped sexual activities eversince I know of their pregnancy. I will not want to put any of my gfs or babies at risk of STDs. :(

(PS:I DO use condoms when I do it with FLs. But seriously I go to FLs only WHEN gfs don't give me what I need.)

JediSkull
17-09-2008, 11:57 PM
Wah, nowadays full time student also very rich it seems.

For most people, falling in love with a WL already bad enough, for you two-timing a couple of non-WL students is worse. And to top it off, getting both of them pregnant.... I have no sympathies for you.

Abortion is murder. Don't even think about this.

I am pro life....... but so far noone I know agreed that I should keep both babies......... the response has been choose one or abort both. :( I'm not asking for sympathy.
I even consulted my aunt whom initially said good luck to me but corrected that to good luck to my 2 gfs!!! I was surprised by what she said, she explains the girls are currently at the losing end if I am a bastard. However I'm still considered a responsible person having not vanished into thin air!!!

Our main concern is how my family will react to my situation. especially when my mum has a stereotyped thinking that china girls are very materialistic. I did think of telling her about my rich gf who does her shopping at LV shop but she's kinda a spoilt brat having being the only child of successful parents. Whereas my poor gf is so poor that I am afraid my mum might think it was my gf trying to get pregnant with my kid in the 1st place.

:(

porscheclub
17-09-2008, 11:58 PM
I did raw thinking I can get morning after pills! anyway went to pharmacy and found out only can get with doctor's prescription and I was 2-3 days late liao! I do my own businesses besides being a full time student........ My family's well off too (though I haven't take money from parents since I'm 18)
I'm an overaged student near 30. But I can definitely afford to upkeep my gfs. Only problem now is whether my parents can accept my china gf/gfs...(I dunno if i should tell them one 1st or tell them I have two gfs pregnant.)

I'm definitely not a bastard. Both girls I love. May sound selfish or stupid! But I really do love both gfs. I don't think I favour one over another. They'r two types of girls that I like in terms of looks. And in terms of character, the rich girl is outspoken and jovial though can be abit violent(she claims she's like that only when she got pregnant. Bad temper when pregnant.) The poor girl is demure and caring but not as fun to be with. But BOTH girls I can communicate my heart with. We shared many things about views in life. In fact both gfs are against abortion..... ONLY PROBLEM NOW IS I FEEL I HAVE LET THEM DOWN COZ ITS LIKE I DUN LOVE ANY OF THEM WHEN I GOT BOTH PREGNANT....... THEY MUST BE THINKING I'M A PLAYBOY!!! :(

Not too bad. At least half the problem's now solved since you can support them & old enough.

er hem but I must say U R A PLAYBOY (I'm guilty too :p) or else why the fuck did u get both pregnant @ the same time? OK, now's not the time to whine & blame anymore. We know that you're choosing but while you're doing this, are you not going to tell both of them the truth or you intend to choose the best & dump the other? Do you not think that they will both dump you after finding out the truth? crunch time bro, crunch time....

JediSkull
18-09-2008, 12:11 AM
Not too bad. At least half the problem's now solved since you can support them & old enough.

er hem but I must say U R A PLAYBOY (I'm guilty too :p) or else why the fuck did u get both pregnant @ the same time? OK, now's not the time to whine & blame anymore. We know that you're choosing but while you're doing this, are you not going to tell both of them the truth or you intend to choose the best & dump the other? Do you not think that they will both dump you after finding out the truth? crunch time bro, crunch time....

I was thinking of housing both gfs in china. Hold weddings twice there since its school holidays for me now and without my parents knowledge!!! bro mebirdie has been listening to my crap since I found out both my GFs got pregnant.........sorry to disturb u bro!

I think I am going crazy...... I'm afraid of losing both GFs if I tell them the truth! especially when their parents are involved too!!! :( REALLY HONG GAN!!! I keep thinking of what their mums tell me on the phone, I feel so damn guilty!!! :(

JediSkull
18-09-2008, 12:15 AM
Dun always be too eager to drop the axe over the head.
This is a kid....someone who doesnt know crap abt responsibilities.
Just felt lucky cos he had the pleasures of 2 pussies serving him.
Selfish, he is, stupid, confirm.
This is not the 1st time i've come across such stories.
If you're a responsible man, then KEEP THE BABY!
If you have to break your back to fight through this, good for you.
If you decide to abort for your own self, then also good for you but i'd luv to see your karma...2 lives lost just for you own sake.

You did this, stop whining and face it like a man like you felt when farking those 2 chicks.
Since you got no income, i really suggest you CONFESS to your folks.
If anyone can really intervene to help you now, its only your parents.
This is a situation you cant run away from.

Sorry bro, I ain't a kid liao...... I'm juz an old kiddo aka LAO WAN TONG...... I have businesses that earns me good income each month, while being a full time student. I was a poly halfway dropout, but things have really changed this time round when I reentered poly after my NSF!!! I was with the direct admissions intake which accepted alot of foreign students...... that's how I got to know one of my china gf. While the other gf was a friend of my cheena schoolmates.

Dancing
18-09-2008, 12:46 AM
I did raw thinking I can get morning after pills! anyway went to pharmacy and found out only can get with doctor's prescription and I was 2-3 days late liao! I do my own businesses besides being a full time student........ My family's well off too (though I haven't take money from parents since I'm 18)
I'm an overaged student near 30. But I can definitely afford to upkeep my gfs. Only problem now is whether my parents can accept my china gf/gfs...(I dunno if i should tell them one 1st or tell them I have two gfs pregnant.)


I don really wanna make a posting in here as I don think I am in postion to say anyone, but bro, u are coming to 30 and you still behave like a kid by letting your small head rule. Btw, wanna play, do your homework well. Morning after pills can only get from doctors and must be consume within 48 hrs.

I have regular checkups at DSC and have stopped sexual activities eversince I know of their pregnancy. I will not want to put any of my gfs or babies at risk of STDs. :(

(PS:I DO use condoms when I do it with FLs. But seriously I go to FLs only WHEN gfs don't give me what I need.)

Wats the use of stop only after you realise they are pregnant?? U mean if they got pregnant, watever they got ( if have) before pregnant will all be gone??

Anyway, abortion is very common in china for young couples as most of the couples will be staying together once they start dating, BUT, please go to the health issue section and take a look at the photos on abortion and I can guarantee you that u will be even more lost. And don be stupid to think that you thinking of marrying both of them as in china, u only can have one wife.

Bro, all I can say is good luck to you and let this be a lesson learnt for you and other bros here. Wanna two time, take precaution, if not just stick to one.

Sirrus
18-09-2008, 01:13 AM
you are in big trouble....
get them both to sit down with u then discuss about it.
Make sure there no weapon nearby or the girls will kill each other or gang up on u then kill each other. The last 1 standing will then sucide.....

if 1 of them reject you then too bad, take care of the 1 that dont mind u 2 time. however it is not fair for both of them...

only way out is to marry both of them in China...after your studies in SG go there and work ASAP...also have u serve army yet? if not yet then ur fuck cause u wasted 2 years of ur life and time is very important for u now...that 2years can get u a good pay if u chiong hard.

i think in china u can have 2 wife cause my i got family member there with 2 wife...

if u cannot affort to take care of 2 still must take care! Brave it out like a man.... If u dont wana go china and stay and want to marry both in SG then i got 1 way only to make it legal... Convert to muslim where according to muslim law can have 4 wife max if approved.

imagine if these girls no choice go sell body how? u shiok anot? or imagine if baby born is girl then go sell body u want? imagine ur daughter or lover sell body while u enjoy life?

Just take care of both of them and brave it out like a man...who knows u might actually turn out to live happy ever after if u brave thru the storm...

JediSkull
18-09-2008, 02:48 AM
Wats the use of stop only after you realise they are pregnant?? U mean if they got pregnant, watever they got ( if have) before pregnant will all be gone??

Anyway, abortion is very common in china for young couples as most of the couples will be staying together once they start dating, BUT, please go to the health issue section and take a look at the photos on abortion and I can guarantee you that u will be even more lost. And don be stupid to think that you thinking of marrying both of them as in china, u only can have one wife.

Bro, all I can say is good luck to you and let this be a lesson learnt for you and other bros here. Wanna two time, take precaution, if not just stick to one.


1st part I agree with you but on the 2nd part I stop after they got pregnant is because of my mood......... I have no problems, I only go DSC to reassure things are ok. My gfs are pro life just like me. I can only say there will be a time I will tell them the truth. But not now...... :(

Still thinking if I can keep both of them or will I lose both if the truth is revealed? or maybe one of them is willing to forgive me?

jojogigi
18-09-2008, 08:59 AM
1st part I agree with you but on the 2nd part I stop after they got pregnant is because of my mood......... I have no problems, I only go DSC to reassure things are ok. My gfs are pro life just like me. I can only say there will be a time I will tell them the truth. But not now...... :(

Still thinking if I can keep both of them or will I lose both if the truth is revealed? or maybe one of them is willing to forgive me?

if i was u i keep both of them. see if they allow or not. LOL

EtherC
18-09-2008, 10:12 AM
Contraception and safe sex is the responsibility of both sexes. Everyone should safeguard their own health. The rate of STIs in SG is increasing because young people don't practise safe sex. Condoms should be used when it comes to recreational sex.

would agree that the gal n the guy is both responsible on that part. But nobody ask him to shot gun in!! and having unprotected sex to different gals at the same time, he is exposing them to various diseases.... :(

n733
18-09-2008, 12:42 PM
how come everyday got ppl dieing and u are not....change your nick to numskull...........dare to do dare not admit..........and 1 not enuff u want 2.....i dont think the kids are bastard.......u r the 1!:mad:

geckoSG
18-09-2008, 01:03 PM
If you can financially support both, talk to both, legally one, the other one cannot le. In the first place, can't imagine U go raw on both without thinking
of the consequence.

Bring both out, talk to them, ur parent cannot accept also no choice.
Lifes are at stake. :(

slider_72
18-09-2008, 01:11 PM
Contraception and safe sex is the responsibility of both sexes. Everyone should safeguard their own health. The rate of STIs in SG is increasing because young people don't practise safe sex. Condoms should be used when it comes to recreational sex.

Well, I am sure when bro numbskull had unprotected sex with each gf, each gf probably thinks that he is hers exclusively. Both did not know that bro numbskull had more than 1 gf and going raw on both.

It could even be possible that both gfs are willing to bear children for bro numbskull.

So while it is true that contraception is the joint responsibility of both parties, the decision can only be made with full knowledge of the surrounding facts and circumstances. One scenario that came to my mind is that when bro numbskull asked each gf to do it raw, he could have said numerous "I love you"s and "you are my one and only" or other similar lines.

If he had been honest with both girls that he is two timing them, I think it would be unlikely that he would be shagging them much less getting them both pregnant at the same time.

The bottomline for me is that I find it difficult to ascribe any blame on the girls for not insisting on protection. They were probably in love and thinking of spending the rest of their respective lives with bro numbskull. I think bro numbskull must shoulder the full blame due to his dishonesty.

colins
18-09-2008, 01:18 PM
Well, I am sure when bro numbskull had unprotected sex with each gf, each gf probably thinks that he is hers exclusively. Both did not know that bro numbskull had more than 1 gf and going raw on both.

It could even be possible that both gfs are willing to bear children for bro numbskull.

So while it is true that contraception is the joint responsibility of both parties, the decision can only be made with full knowledge of the surrounding facts and circumstances. One scenario that came to my mind is that when bro numbskull asked each gf to do it raw, he could have said numerous "I love you"s and "you are my one and only" or other similar lines.

If he had been honest with both girls that he is two timing them, I think it would be unlikely that he would be shagging them much less getting them both pregnant at the same time.

The bottomline for me is that I find it difficult to ascribe any blame on the girls for not insisting on protection. They were probably in love and thinking of spending the rest of their respective lives with bro numbskull. I think bro numbskull must shoulder the full blame due to his dishonesty.

Yes, for some reasons, PRC ladies do not like their guys to use condoms. For that it is easy to capitalise on this preference to have a more 'fulfilling' experience on bro TS's side.

naemlo
18-09-2008, 01:23 PM
Contraception and safe sex is the responsibility of both sexes.




The bottomline for me is that I find it difficult to ascribe any blame on the girls for not insisting on protection. They were probably in love and thinking of spending the rest of their respective lives with bro numbskull.


Hmmm, once u r with a ger long, the ger normally will allow raw sex, further to it if they r couple, the ger will trust the guy even more. I guess if the guy is not willing or unable to take responsible, he must be smart enough to wear the best invention by man, condom. :rolleyes:

EtherC
18-09-2008, 01:59 PM
Because many men still can't get around the fact that women are the weaker sex,so much so that when such incidents occur the women are automatically assumed to be the victims. Its the same mental block that when people mention mass murderers they think of men instantly. When we hold an idea/picture/object in the mind for too long and when we are showed something entirely different we can still auto assume its the same idea/picture/object. Humans tend to do that. Like when you read you will tend to auto assume. That's how our brains work. We predict we assume. An exercise to break this would be to name yourself some mass murderers and then Google Brenda Spencer and Jennifer San Marco.

Its just natural for you to put all blame on Jediskull because you're discussing this issue under cultural and psychological influences. For me I'm used to exclusion of human errors to isolate the root cause of problems. If the root cause isn't solved the problem always exists. I believe in constructive steps towards a solution not witch hunts. Of course I know in an intimate relationship raw penetration is common, but that's a flawed choice by itself in terms of sexual health. 2 wrongs do don't make a right. In this thread we assume too much about these girls when in fact we know nothing about their sexual promiscuities, characters or whether Jediskull is their sole sex partner.

Well, I am sure when bro numbskull had unprotected sex with each gf, each gf probably thinks that he is hers exclusively. Both did not know that bro numbskull had more than 1 gf and going raw on both.

It could even be possible that both gfs are willing to bear children for bro numbskull.

So while it is true that contraception is the joint responsibility of both parties, the decision can only be made with full knowledge of the surrounding facts and circumstances. One scenario that came to my mind is that when bro numbskull asked each gf to do it raw, he could have said numerous "I love you"s and "you are my one and only" or other similar lines.

If he had been honest with both girls that he is two timing them, I think it would be unlikely that he would be shagging them much less getting them both pregnant at the same time.

The bottomline for me is that I find it difficult to ascribe any blame on the girls for not insisting on protection. They were probably in love and thinking of spending the rest of their respective lives with bro numbskull. I think bro numbskull must shoulder the full blame due to his dishonesty.

JediSkull
18-09-2008, 04:20 PM
how come everyday got ppl dieing and u are not....change your nick to numskull...........dare to do dare not admit..........and 1 not enuff u want 2.....i dont think the kids are bastard.......u r the 1!:mad:

bro, I know i am a bastard......... but I'm now trying to solve the problems I created. I dun think I am wrong in that sense....... :(

(PS:My original nick WAS numbskull.)

colins
18-09-2008, 04:31 PM
bro, I know i am a bastard......... but I'm now trying to solve the problems I created. I dun think I am wrong in that sense....... :(

(PS:My original nick WAS numbskull.)

By the way, 重婚罪 is a 'jail-able' offense, so do consider properly if you want to marry both in China.

colins
18-09-2008, 04:38 PM
bro, I know i am a bastard......... but I'm now trying to solve the problems I created. I dun think I am wrong in that sense....... :(

(PS:My original nick WAS numbskull.)

By the way, 重婚罪 is a 'jail-able' offense, so do consider properly if you want to marry both in China.

sentuers
18-09-2008, 05:16 PM
read your story... first thought... BASTARD, irresponsible school kid...

after reading that you are 30 and pro-life and able and want to support them... okay... BASTARD... but responsible.

seriously.. you can't keep this quiet forever...

suggest this: tell both, decide which one to make wife, the other mistress... have wedding dinner at home of both (to save their families' face)... then move both to 3rd city and make new life there, together...

will they agree? do they have a choice? then play by ear lor... if both decide that they are better off without you... congrats, you have your license to roam all over again...

what happens to the kid of the mistress?.. adopt officially so that kid gets legal status for school, etc etc. spend some money to grease the system.

goodfun
18-09-2008, 06:18 PM
Congrats its a good news bro,u got ur own baby :)
I strongly discourage abortion,its a life,and u make it!
think about it bro.

not everythings also about money,if u able to go through now,learn it.
i also got lots of friends also no money but ten yrs down the road still a hero,wif familys and kids :D

ur ticky part is because u screw two gals and it happen the same time :eek:
tis is ur road u decide,if can have one family in sing and the other in china,u"ll be a king!

God bless u my son on making the rite decision and be happy to move on in life,my two cents :)

fallen_angel
18-09-2008, 09:58 PM
you are in big trouble....
get them both to sit down with u then discuss about it.
Make sure there no weapon nearby or the girls will kill each other or gang up on u then kill each other. The last 1 standing will then sucide.....




its NEVER a good idea to have both together. its as good as digging your own grave no matter wat. Women are never as gracious when it comes to relationship.

JediSkull
19-09-2008, 07:10 AM
Congrats its a good news bro,u got ur own baby :)
I strongly discourage abortion,its a life,and u make it!
think about it bro.................God bless u my son on making the rite decision and be happy to move on in life,my two cents :)

thanks for ur encouragement. I can afford to have kids, but seriously its still a social stigma to have a china bride. Facing alot of objections from frens...... they tell me tales of other frens who married KTV gals and didn't get good endings......... But my gfs are naive young students..... I'm feeling depressed coz I know I juz put both my GFs into deep shit. :(

interesting point that my aunt brought up today.... she asked if I choose to keep both gfs and even if they'r agreeable..... I still have problems during (TUAN YUAN FAN) CHINESE REUNION DINNER!!! Where the hell am I suppose to go?!?! :(

colins
19-09-2008, 07:41 AM
Bro Jediskull, not only reunion dinner, its all to do with the unnatural arrangement with having 2 wives at a time. For example, who will you stay with during their delivery? Who will you stay with eventually? Married life is not like bf-gf. Its a lot closer. They will definately get to know of the other's presence if you intend to marry them. Is it even practical even if you can afford it?

slider_72
19-09-2008, 10:00 AM
Well... not exactly impossible to keep 2 wives, just not easy to manage. After all, we do know of a certain individual who managed to maintain 3 at the same time and doing a great job at it too :D.

jojogigi
19-09-2008, 12:13 PM
Well... not exactly impossible to keep 2 wives, just not easy to manage. After all, we do know of a certain individual who managed to maintain 3 at the same time and doing a great job at it too :D.

Do you blowjob? haha.

EtherC
19-09-2008, 12:30 PM
29 coming to 30 and yet your thinking is still juvenile. Why are you evading the real issue of the 2 unborns along with girlfriends? What use is it thinking about lesser issues like social stigma, peer objection and best of all reunion dinner?!You can't control how the people around you think and since that is a wildcard leave it out of the equation. You've put your GFs in deep shit and if you don't act in a proper manner to solve the problem it will snowball to a even bigger issue. The only legal way you will be able to marry them both is to convert to Islam and live in an Islamic state but don't bet on it. You'll be considered lucky if one of them is willing to marry you after they discover the truth. Two timing is one thing, raising 2 families is a totally different ball game. If you think money is the answer, I guess you're a just a well fed narcissistic frog in a very small well.

thanks for ur encouragement. I can afford to have kids, but seriously its still a social stigma to have a china bride. Facing alot of objections from frens...... they tell me tales of other frens who married KTV gals and didn't get good endings......... But my gfs are naive young students..... I'm feeling depressed coz I know I juz put both my GFs into deep shit. :(

interesting point that my aunt brought up today.... she asked if I choose to keep both gfs and even if they'r agreeable..... I still have problems during (TUAN YUAN FAN) CHINESE REUNION DINNER!!! Where the hell am I suppose to go?!?! :(

xyz1001
19-09-2008, 01:08 PM
Why are you evading the real issue of the 2 unborns along with girlfriends? What use is it thinking about lesser issues like social stigma, peer objection and best of all reunion dinner?!


EXACTLY!!! Shouldn't TS be thinking what to do with the 2 babies instead of other questions. Time is NOT in your side, the babies are growing everyday.

sentuers
19-09-2008, 03:33 PM
thanks for ur encouragement. I can afford to have kids, but seriously its still a social stigma to have a china bride. Facing alot of objections from frens...... they tell me tales of other frens who married KTV gals and didn't get good endings......... But my gfs are naive young students..... I'm feeling depressed coz I know I juz put both my GFs into deep shit. :(

interesting point that my aunt brought up today.... she asked if I choose to keep both gfs and even if they'r agreeable..... I still have problems during (TUAN YUAN FAN) CHINESE REUNION DINNER!!! Where the hell am I suppose to go?!?! :(

Do you want to sound like a hero or are you serious about the 2 lives (make that 4, plus all the rest of the 2 families) that you messed up? Focus man... you are saying that it was "cool" to have China girlfriends and bonk them, and not so "cool" to have China wives?

Stigma and Reunion dinners are the least of your worries. What? "sorry, giril, i can't marry you because i cannot decide where to eat my reunion dinners?" your aunt is a funny one...

slider_72
19-09-2008, 05:16 PM
Both girls are now 3 to 4 months pregnant? In a month or so, you will be able to do the full 3D scan, by then, you will see a fully formed baby in each girl's womb. You might even be able to see them sucking on their tiny little thumbs. I think the psychological effect and damage on the girls knowing what a bastard you are will be far greater after seeing the cute little baby forming inside their respective wombs.

yang punk
19-09-2008, 10:40 PM
Do you really love one of them? If you do marry her then tell the other the truth. If she wants to go thru with pregnancy let her and pay her child support. If she doesn't want to keep the child then after birth you take it over and bring back to Singapore. If your parents want to keep the grandchild then something can definitely be worked out. Either your other china wife agree to adopt him/her or if not give it up for adoption (if your family is not hard-up and after seeing the child they would 99.9% want to keep it after all it your flesh and blood!)

If you don't love either of them better not marry them otherwise will also end up in divorce. If you don't intend to keep both the children and if they too do not want to keep them...then arrange for adoption by Singaporean family...there is a long waiting list of eager parent wannabes...and they will also have a better life in Singapore.

Act responsibly!

JediSkull
19-09-2008, 11:06 PM
By the way, 重婚罪 is a 'jail-able' offense, so do consider properly if you want to marry both in China.

Yeah, saw that in the papers recently. Apparently even if u'r not registered but u held 2 wedding dinners. U'r considered marrying twice!!! :(

JediSkull
19-09-2008, 11:11 PM
Do you really love one of them? If you do marry her then tell the other the truth. .............If you don't love either of them better not marry them otherwise will also end up in divorce. If you don't intend to keep both the children and if they too do not want to keep them...then arrange for adoption by Singaporean family...there is a long waiting list of eager parent wannabes...and they will also have a better life in Singapore.

Act responsibly!


I will be telling them the truth next week and see who's acceptable to forgiving me what I have done..... I love them both........... But I think I have to come up with the truth sooner or later. till next week, then I will know wat's gonna happen. :(

colins
20-09-2008, 02:15 AM
Yeah, saw that in the papers recently. Apparently even if u'r not registered but u held 2 wedding dinners. U'r considered marrying twice!!! :(

Bro, even when you've lived with the girl for something a month, and that there are witnesses to testify that, it is considered cohabitation and that is one of the strong proves required for the PP to prosecute you. Dun need wedding dinner, friend.

Dun think so far, what now?

JediSkull
20-09-2008, 06:08 AM
Bro, even when you've lived with the girl for something a month, and that there are witnesses to testify that, it is considered cohabitation and that is one of the strong proves required for the PP to prosecute you. Dun need wedding dinner, friend.

Dun think so far, what now?

tell both my gfs the truth next week, see what's next then....... :( these weeks have been hell...... cannot sleep properly. even my aunt got affected coz she brought me up since I was young and when she knew about my problem she also cannot sleep. I did tell her that I will resolve my problem myself and there's no need for her to break the news to my family members. Its best I break the news to my gfs and family myself. will hope for the best. :cool:

JediSkull
20-09-2008, 06:18 AM
Hmmm, once u r with a ger long, the ger normally will allow raw sex, further to it if they r couple, the ger will trust the guy even more. I guess if the guy is not willing or unable to take responsible, he must be smart enough to wear the best invention by man, condom. :rolleyes:

Bro, I am willing to take responsibility. But I didn't expect a double whammy....... :( if it was one gal who got pregnant, I wouldn't have such a big headache now!

my gfs did warn me about shooting inside since both were at their "dangerous" period..... but I was thinking I can get morning after pills. even after the failure to get the pills, I didn't think much coz I didn't think I would be so "lucky" to kenna any gals pregnant, especially when its the 1st time I shot inside for both girls.

Things got real bad when both gfs start missing their period and started calling me everyday after their missed period. I can assure u that I did not take this as a game in anyway. I love both my girls, very different personalities but both are what I look for. SianZzz :(

Lumix
20-09-2008, 09:02 AM
I feel sorry for the 2 girls, also for u as well... a moment of folly resulted in this. I won't advise what u should do, as you will make the decision yourself. Good luck hope everything turn out well for you

seizure
20-09-2008, 01:01 PM
how old are the 2 girls? what are your original plans for yourself? are you able to accept the consequences of your decision?

what will happen if both girls are willing to accept you on the premise that you break up with the other one?

you may be 30 years old, but you have many more years ahead of you - are you sure you know the girls enough to know what to expect in the coming years ahead?

a child is a life long commitment - have you looked after kids before (eg, nieces/nephews/etc) - it's no piece of cake.

what if your kid(s) (knock on wood) needs constant medical care after they're born?

what if your wife/wives/in-laws (both) want the kids to become singaporean or if they want to live in singapore? how will you accomodate them in singapore?

i've gotten girls pregnant before - twice (on separate occasions).

both pregnancies were terminated. i know it's easy to say i was not being responsible, but i thought about it this way:

the only time i would have the child (this does not include marriage) is when i know i am able to bear ALL consequences (if the child was ill, if the child had to live with me regardless of which country i'm in, if i could afford monetarily to be a father, if i could afford mentally to be a father, if my parents and siblings can understand, if i am willing to give up my lifestyle).

i will also marry the girl only having thought about and accepted its consequence. i couldn't do so and thus the termination.

i'm now a doctor and enjoy a quality of life which would NOT have been possible if i had a kid. i would have to drop out of school and get a job because i know i would not accept handouts from my parents.

i can only recommend you think about this long and hard before breaking any news to anyone because if you go ahead with marriage/birth, there will be no return...

your former life, as you know it, is over. what's more, if you don't know your girls well enough, you may not even be able to predict what will happen in "worse case scenarios"...

whatever you do, good luck. nothing worse than making a decision you can't handle later - remember to plan for the worse.

coz when life is suay... the worse happens.

jojogigi
20-09-2008, 06:31 PM
Bro, I am willing to take responsibility. But I didn't expect a double whammy....... :( if it was one gal who got pregnant, I wouldn't have such a big headache now!

my gfs did warn me about shooting inside since both were at their "dangerous" period..... but I was thinking I can get morning after pills. even after the failure to get the pills, I didn't think much coz I didn't think I would be so "lucky" to kenna any gals pregnant, especially when its the 1st time I shot inside for both girls.

Things got real bad when both gfs start missing their period and started calling me everyday after their missed period. I can assure u that I did not take this as a game in anyway. I love both my girls, very different personalities but both are what I look for. SianZzz :(

dude. Lets say im immoral. If i were you. I both also take. See they can take it or not. U just tell them u love both of them as much as you love both of them. If they ask u to choose. Den say u can't. Anyway the baby is urs. And they will need you. I believe having two wives can be done one. If you know how to psycho. hsahshsahahahah

JediSkull
21-09-2008, 05:13 AM
how old are the 2 girls? what are your original plans for yourself? are you able to accept the consequences of your decision?......................................... ..................
what if your wife/wives/in-laws (both) want the kids to become singaporean or if they want to live in singapore? how will you accomodate them in singapore?i've gotten girls pregnant before - twice (on separate occasions).
both pregnancies were terminated. i know it's easy to say i was not being responsible, but i thought about it this way:
the only time i would have the child (this does not include marriage) is when i know i am able to bear ALL consequences (if the child was ill, if the child had to live with me regardless of which country i'm in, if i could afford monetarily to be a father, if i could afford mentally to be a father, if my parents and siblings can understand, if i am willing to give up my lifestyle).
i will also marry the girl only having thought about and accepted its consequence. i couldn't do so and thus the termination.
i'm now a doctor and enjoy a quality of life which would NOT have been possible if i had a kid. i would have to drop out of school and get a job because i know i would not accept handouts from my parents.
i can only recommend you think about this long and hard before breaking any news to anyone because if you go ahead with marriage/birth, there will be no return...
your former life, as you know it, is over. what's more, if you don't know your girls well enough, you may not even be able to predict what will happen in "worse case scenarios"...
whatever you do, good luck. nothing worse than making a decision you can't handle later - remember to plan for the worse.
coz when life is suay... the worse happens.


WOW........ nice to hear your story.....I'm going through the same thought processes as you....... impressed by your decision for I believe its not easy..... especially if you know its your flesh and blood....

So are you married now and with kids? or still a swinging bachelor? Being a doctor, you have kinda succeeded in life already. I always believe being a doctor, one should be noble.

I particular thought about this part which you mentioned: your former life, as you know it, is over. what's more, if you don't know your girls well enough, you may not even be able to predict what will happen in "worse case scenarios"...

I'm maybe prepared financially but I'm not mentally prepared....... But yet the moral dilemma of getting my gfs to abort is bugging me.......

just a question: My gfs are now 3 1/2 months pregnant.... if asking them to terminate, will it cause them much harm? I understand that after a period of time, doctors cannot administer anaesthesia..... seen some of the abortion pics. very gruesome.... :(

JediSkull
21-09-2008, 05:19 AM
dude. Lets say im immoral. If i were you. I both also take. See they can take it or not. U just tell them u love both of them as much as you love both of them. If they ask u to choose. Den say u can't. Anyway the baby is urs. And they will need you. I believe having two wives can be done one. If you know how to psycho. hsahshsahahahah

bro, I will only know next week when i reveal the truth. sekali I dun get anyone sticking with me! u still can ask me to psycho for 2 wives! u champion lar......... :( having 2 wives is huge responsibility! its not say say only leh....... somemore both got kids!!! :eek:

colins
21-09-2008, 05:27 AM
tell both my gfs the truth next week, see what's next then....... :( these weeks have been hell...... cannot sleep properly. even my aunt got affected coz she brought me up since I was young and when she knew about my problem she also cannot sleep. I did tell her that I will resolve my problem myself and there's no need for her to break the news to my family members. Its best I break the news to my gfs and family myself. will hope for the best. :cool:

Time is very hard to pass if you procrastinate. Stress builds up too and that affects you from making good decisions, that is if you can make any at all. Dun run away bro, face it and leave the burden of keeping the truth from them. If you dun come clean with them, imagine keeping this secret for the next 30-40 years of your life. Not only does your aunt worry, your parents and their parents are also waiting for your action now.

This kind of thing cannot wait, you kept saying you will take action but action speaks for itself. Do it now.

JediSkull
21-09-2008, 05:33 AM
Time is very hard to pass if you procrastinate. Stress builds up too and that affects you from making good decisions, that is if you can make any at all. Dun run away bro, face it and leave the burden of keeping the truth from them. If you dun come clean with them, imagine keeping this secret for the next 30-40 years of your life. Not only does your aunt worry, your parents and their parents are also waiting for your action now.

This kind of thing cannot wait, you kept saying you will take action but action speaks for itself. Do it now.

like what our doctor friend here said: he chose to terminate for good reasons. there's no need to let your parents know especially if you dun intend to get payouts from them.

for my case, its complicated by the fact that its not one but two girls who'r pregnant with my child. I trying to think of what I have to say to my parents. especially my decision is to keep both girls and babies. But these might not even work out if I reveal to my gfs the truth.

Let me just reveal the truth to them on Monday and see what happens.......
:( if they choose to leave me, then I dun have to tell my parents or get too bothered about the future. But I have a bad feeling that my gfs will choose to keep the babies..... if that happens, there'r more scenerios that can occur! :(

Schenker
21-09-2008, 11:02 AM
(PS: I dun think I wan my kids to be commy bastards!!! OMG!!! WHAT SHOULD I DO SIA?!?!)

All I can say is this... don't get pressurized by getting married. It won't solve the whole problem, it's either one of them getting hurt and hate you, or both of them will never come to singapore for good.

I think you can't solve the problems yourself. Seek your elders advise. You got to be brave and be responsible on your actions. If not, you will still fuck around even if you get married.

Schenker
21-09-2008, 11:23 AM
Let me just reveal the truth to them on Monday and see what happens.......
:( if they choose to leave me, then I dun have to tell my parents or get too bothered about the future. But I have a bad feeling that my gfs will choose to keep the babies..... if that happens, there'r more scenerios that can occur! :(

Any decisions made by you is vital, and must be carefully thought over, although
there are limited decisions left for you. It's not only you and the mother-babies issues. There's alot more problems than you can think of in due course.

Megatronzombie
21-09-2008, 03:47 PM
like what our doctor friend here said: he chose to terminate for good reasons. there's no need to let your parents know especially if you dun intend to get payouts from them.

for my case, its complicated by the fact that its not one but two girls who'r pregnant with my child. I trying to think of what I have to say to my parents. especially my decision is to keep both girls and babies. But these might not even work out if I reveal to my gfs the truth.

Let me just reveal the truth to them on Monday and see what happens.......
:( if they choose to leave me, then I dun have to tell my parents or get too bothered about the future. But I have a bad feeling that my gfs will choose to keep the babies..... if that happens, there'r more scenerios that can occur! :(


hi bro, i believe the abortion timeframe is 12 weeks... but depends on doctors' advice... all i can say is good luck to you, bro...

On abortion, if done incorrectly in some stupid clinic, can cause permanent damage to the girl's cervix and uterus causing miscarriage later if she is pregnant again. So better reconsider. The advantage is they are both very young and probably can take it.

On the future: both girls are very young and your actions will determine their future or mess it up for them. Its your choice so better think very carefully.

FL Lover
22-09-2008, 03:51 PM
just a question: My gfs are now 3 1/2 months pregnant.... if asking them to terminate, will it cause them much harm? I understand that after a period of time, doctors cannot administer anaesthesia..... seen some of the abortion pics. very gruesome.... :(

Bro, you better get your gfs to see the doctor ASAP if you want them to go for abortion.

I remb when my wife is preg, i did ask the doc that for abortion, what is the timeframe like? The doc had told us in SG, it is illegal to go for abortion in any public hospitals after 3 months unless the baby is a special case.

So after 3 months, most hospitals in SG would not do the operation as it cause a risk to the mother.

Better make a decision fast. Dont delay anymore. Dont forget. U are bringing a life out into this world. Time wait for no man.

Cheonging101
22-09-2008, 05:22 PM
Fwah... bro JediSkull, may I recommend you to read this book called "Duke of Mount Deer"?:D

What's the answer they have for you? Most probably, they did not give you an answer yet or have told you to go back and think long and hard to choose between them?

Perhaps you could marry one girl here (probably the rich one since you're afraid of social stigma) and the other one in China?:p

Paiseh that I can't give a better advice and am glad (but insanely jealous:p) that I'm not you! Your sperm damn power swimmers!:eek:

Either way, I hope that you should not allow the abortion to take place. Seriously.

jojogigi
22-09-2008, 07:29 PM
Monday Liao!! Jediskull!! What Happens Next!

pseudonym
22-09-2008, 09:24 PM
sad to hear this story. please avoid abortion :(

JediSkull
23-09-2008, 11:09 PM
Monday Liao!! Jediskull!! What Happens Next!

Talked to my poor girl, she was upset when she learnt I got another girl pregnant......... managed to convince her that I really do love her....... she told me she has no choice now but to have the baby but I will have to hold a wedding dinner to avoid embaressment for her family. She even thinks that I would most likely take up a legal wife in Singapore and she would most likely be my mistress..... we came to an understanding as of now..... dun think she is one who will be up with any tricks when I go there to hold the wedding dinner.

As for the rich girl, she was very upset. started hurling verbal abuse...... told me to leave the poor girl.......... she swore that she will have the kid no matter what but will never marry another man if I don't marry her.......... claims that she is my family's ghost even if she dies.......... wah lau..... had hard time trying to calm her down........ she now demands that I do what she says or she will give birth to the child and come singapore find my family to claim justice?!?!

:(

DO_YOU_BJ
23-09-2008, 11:46 PM
Talked to my poor girl, she was upset when she learnt I got another girl pregnant......... managed to convince her that I really do love her....... she told me she has no choice now but to have the baby but I will have to hold a wedding dinner to avoid embaressment for her family. She even thinks that I would most likely take up a legal wife in Singapore and she would most likely be my mistress..... we came to an understanding as of now..... dun think she is one who will be up with any tricks when I go there to hold the wedding dinner.

As for the rich girl, she was very upset. started hurling verbal abuse...... told me to leave the poor girl.......... she swore that she will have the kid no matter what but will never marry another man if I don't marry her.......... claims that she is my family's ghost even if she dies.......... wah lau..... had hard time trying to calm her down........ she now demands that I do what she says or she will give birth to the child and come singapore find my family to claim justice?!?!

:(

Bro, since you replied me that you financially very the can, then take both.
Marry the poor one to get SG PR and the rich one as mistress.
To me, this is the most fairest solution for the to be born babies

JediSkull
24-09-2008, 12:02 AM
Bro, since you replied me that you financially very the can, then take both.
Marry the poor one to get SG PR and the rich one as mistress.
To me, this is the most fairest solution for the to be born babies

huh??? there's no fairness in this situation....... right now I just want everyone to let the matter rest and concentrate on the future........ :(

MrBBBJ
24-09-2008, 12:25 AM
This type of matter where will rest easily.. so many factor..aiyo~~bro..you are a hero!! all the best to you!!

DO_YOU_BJ
24-09-2008, 12:37 AM
This type of matter where will rest easily.. so many factor..aiyo~~bro..you are a hero!! all the best to you!!


Mr BBBJ??? WongSan?

DO_YOU_BJ
24-09-2008, 12:42 AM
huh??? there's no fairness in this situation....... right now I just want everyone to let the matter rest and concentrate on the future........ :(

Allow me to elaborate further.
The poorer gal, if carrying a baby, will still be on a disadvantage...environment etc
Also, baby growing up in that kinda environment also not desirable.
Now bring her over, marry her get PR good for the baby's upbringing.

As for the rich gal, go there marry her.
Even if you cant financially support her for example, i am sure the baby will grow up in a comfortable and desirable environment.

This is my take on the situation. Remember, you want to keep both, then this has to be the way. My focus is on the babies, not the women.
Reason: you alone here they both there, give maybe say 2 yrs max, think where will your heart go?
We're all humans...sometimes outta sight outta mind can be very disastrous.

jojogigi
24-09-2008, 01:08 AM
anyway i believe u shouldnt give in to the rich girl. once u give... good day for u liao. But u should not throw her aside also la.... anyway the best solution is have both. whether they or you like it or not. I wish you all the best. U need ur wedding pictures taken in china? ahahha i shoot for free (i fulltime photog dun worry...lol). but u bao airticket and accomodation for me. mauahahhahaha .

JediSkull
24-09-2008, 04:14 AM
anyway i believe u shouldnt give in to the rich girl. once u give... good day for u liao. But u should not throw her aside also la.... anyway the best solution is have both. whether they or you like it or not. I wish you all the best. U need ur wedding pictures taken in china? ahahha i shoot for free (i fulltime photog dun worry...lol). but u bao airticket and accomodation for me. mauahahhahaha .

I will be flying to china soon.......accomodation I have over there but its those apartment type. my poorer gf rented a place with an extra room in case i bring a friend along. but i'm going to HENAN..... then SZECHUAN. my richer gf is from szechuan. Anyway I am gonna defuse the bomb. I am going to tell my rich gf I was joking about another girl..... seems that she is extremely unhappy with such a situation. :(

Xgenre
24-09-2008, 09:33 AM
then SZECHUAN. my richer gf is from szechuan. Anyway I am gonna defuse the bomb. I am going to tell my rich gf I was joking about another girl..... seems that she is extremely unhappy with such a situation. :(

You are going to lie again? Why? Since she already knows the truth, you should stick to the true story. If you change your mind and pretend the poorer girl story is a joke, it will raise her suspicions too. Ladies got sixth sense. If you lie, she will still suspect you have another wife in Henan, especially when you are in Henan spending time with the other wife.

You should stand your ground and make sure she accepts the truth. It's better for you to whack the hard truth in her face and make her accept it now. It's not as if she is in a favourable negotiating situation with her growing belly. Tell Rich girl if she can't accept sharing, you will leave her and just make poor girl your sole wife. I think that is harsh but it will work. Tell her you may be the father of the baby but even if she comes to Singapore with the baby, Singapore laws can't force you to do a DNA test against your will, to prove that you are the father.

I feel if you don't handle this issue firmly, your life will be moving from lie to lie, trying to cover one hole at a time...

Megatronzombie
24-09-2008, 10:06 AM
I will be flying to china soon.......accomodation I have over there but its those apartment type. my poorer gf rented a place with an extra room in case i bring a friend along. but i'm going to HENAN..... then SZECHUAN. my richer gf is from szechuan. Anyway I am gonna defuse the bomb. I am going to tell my rich gf I was joking about another girl..... seems that she is extremely unhappy with such a situation. :(

wtf are you doing? youknow what you are? U're a f**king coward! Going to lie again?? u r F**KING stupid!! THINK like an adult for once in your life!!! BIG QUESTION : if you lie and later she found out I can tell you she will probably put a knife on your chest when you sleep. THINK PROPERLY before you do another stupid thing! :mad:

jojogigi
24-09-2008, 11:05 AM
I will be flying to china soon.......accomodation I have over there but its those apartment type. my poorer gf rented a place with an extra room in case i bring a friend along. but i'm going to HENAN..... then SZECHUAN. my richer gf is from szechuan. Anyway I am gonna defuse the bomb. I am going to tell my rich gf I was joking about another girl..... seems that she is extremely unhappy with such a situation. :(

im going shenzhen in oct 7th. maybe can meet u.mauahaha. anyway no need to lie la. U sure get it one. One day sure sure they know and it will get worse. Just tell them the truth. They want it. Take it . Dun wan. Sua. Dun give in to the rich girl. U will regret. Rich girl tantrums are very unreasonable but overall the whole story is ur fault la. Its u who cos 2 women pregnant. ahahaha.
Im supposed to meet my girl at her hometown szechuan just like urs . but she wants to meet in shenzhen. Dunno want to cheat my money or throw me to pig cage.a hahahaha. exciting. I love an adventure. woot. Wasted if in szechuan can meet u liao. Den tell ur rich gf u are gay too. ahahah ill be ur substitute... ahaha Ur story my drama than drama. LOL.

xyz1001
24-09-2008, 11:47 AM
You are going to lie again? Why? Since she already knows the truth, you should stick to the true story. If you change your mind and pretend the poorer girl story is a joke, it will raise her suspicions too. Ladies got sixth sense. If you lie, she will still suspect you have another wife in Henan, especially when you are in Henan spending time with the other wife.


TS pls reconsider your actions. Bro Xgenre speaks truly. Why lie again when u just come clean with them? There are some things that cannot joke abt, becoz no matter ridiculous the joke is, it MUST have cross your mind and it bears certain truth, be it 50% or 1%.

I feel if you don't handle this issue firmly, your life will be moving from lie to lie, trying to cover one hole at a time.. And one fine day, the truth will be out and u face the consequences

mebirdie
24-09-2008, 11:59 AM
I am going to say good luck to you.
Going to a unknown girl village is very dangerous.
Furthermore, you got to answer to many issues.

Think twice before flying there. China is not Singapore.
They can do anything. :eek:

maxrex
24-09-2008, 02:24 PM
It is not worth at all to tell more lies to either of girls. Telling 1 lie will lead to more lies, complications, headaches in future. I suggest that you register marriage with your rich girlfriend in China as she is from well-to-do family and register marriage with your poor girlfriend in Singapore.

But make sure that you do it first in China because the Chinese authorities may want to check with Singapore government if your Singapore status is single or married. As for Singapore side, it is relatively easy to register marriage as Singapore officials are not likely to check about your oversea status.

Of course, you should hold 2 wedding ceremonies with both girlfriends as soon as possible. Don't delay further, otherwise they will get bigger. You must be fortunate to have 2 women by your side in years to come. Good luck to you!

DO_YOU_BJ
24-09-2008, 02:42 PM
逃避就是后悔的开始
Your life in in your own hands.
How you want to conclude it, happens now.
So you choose!

Xgenre
24-09-2008, 03:02 PM
I suggest that you register marriage with your rich girlfriend in China as she is from well-to-do family and register marriage with your poor girlfriend in Singapore.

But make sure that you do it first in China because the Chinese authorities may want to check with Singapore government if your Singapore status is single or married. As for Singapore side, it is relatively easy to register marriage as Singapore officials are not likely to check about your oversea status.

Of course, you should hold 2 wedding ceremonies with both girlfriends as soon as possible. Don't delay further, otherwise they will get bigger. You must be fortunate to have 2 women by your side in years to come. Good luck to you!

Your suggestion will put him in jail. :eek: Having a customary or official wedding in China plus an official wedding in Singapore makes him guilty of Bigamy. He will go to jail, especially when either of his 'wives' report him in a fit of anger. Please check Singapore's laws. Plus Singapore has the Women's Charter, which China doesn't have. Singapore men are the sure losers in marriage.

As for fortunate, I think after so many pages of replies, not many people envy him. In fact, there are more people scolding him, if anything.

crazysexycool
25-09-2008, 08:43 AM
good luck to TS ... u will need it ... it aint gonna be easy ... even if marry both or not ... legally or illegally (refer to bro post on top on bigamy)

Or wad some people do is not marry .. like those in certain countries ... just take them under your roof ... my 2 cents ... but not asian style.

porscheclub
25-09-2008, 06:30 PM
Dear TS, not to be cruel, but I actually think the best scenario is when both gals abort & dump you. You'll be lonely for a while to reflect but you can start clean. Looks like it's taken a little step now.

I think your "poorer" girl is the sensible one here though I won't blame the other for kicking up a big fuss.

Please don't hurt the poor one anymore, her life's screwed by you for having a child @ such young age. Well, in fact both. Just that the other's better off financially.

Now that your 1st half issue is settled, quickly go assure her family & her of your commitment. Then the 2nd but the truth, I have a feeling you're trying to be greedy here & have the best of both worlds but think of the consequences.

Once done, you'll have to decide who you want to make official.

I would suppose you're old enough to handle this issue yourself irregardless of your family's opinions.

Again. Please consider your decisions carefully, this is a lifetime commitment. Your future, career, happiness etc. remember what the Dr said earlier but yours a little short changed.

From what I gathered, the PRC youth is not bothered about contraception & ill informed about VDs, abortion is not an issue with them (the few that I know). Many of my gal's college friends happily co-habit and change partners. IMHO, the modern age Chinese is far more "advanced" than ours. Most are single child & parents would give/do whatever they can to provide the best for them.

wodemama
25-09-2008, 06:37 PM
You got many answer here, so i wish you good luck. Don't look at things on the surface.

Cheers

Moredhel
25-09-2008, 07:47 PM
After reading through the thread, I must say that you're one greedy but responsible(somewhat) bastard. Your thinking is rather off-topic though(worrying about things like social stigma and reunion dinners). I'm sure most of the bros here agree with me.

Assuming you're willing and going to take full responsibility as a man of course.
And assuming that both babies are actually yours.

Well, my first though is that you shouldn't give in to the temper throwing rich gf. Secondly is that marriage laws in Singapore are exceedingly strict and unfairly biased(I don't wanna go there) towards the fairer sex, my advice is that if you're gonna get married with your wife knowing you have another wife, keep it in PRC(if you can get away with bigamy, it's gotta be there).

You'll probably gonna have to end up protecting the poorer one but don't jump into any hard and fast decisions .


My 2 Sillypore cents.

JediSkull
26-09-2008, 04:55 AM
talked to my parents about a gf getting pregnant...... (didn't say two coz I think they would want me to abort both)

mother's ok with it but father is skeptical and wants a DNA test once baby is born. he wants me to register in china and report to singapore embassy. then baby born n tested mine then arrange for both mother n child to come be sg PR........... the tricky part now is I think I will be forced to choose only one gf..........:(

DO_YOU_BJ
26-09-2008, 10:10 AM
talked to my parents about a gf getting pregnant...... (didn't say two coz I think they would want me to abort both)

mother's ok with it but father is skeptical and wants a DNA test once baby is born. he wants me to register in china and report to singapore embassy. then baby born n tested mine then arrange for both mother n child to come be sg PR........... the tricky part now is I think I will be forced to choose only one gf..........:(


My friend, remember what i told you about 逃避?
Seriously, if you really sit down and think about it, you are getting yourself into more probs for wanting to use lie after lie to cover things when you originally started off wif only 1 prob.
Sigh, i just cannot understand why people are like that.
Just get it over once and for all, but u keep running around in circles wif everyone and end up no where but with more than wat you bargained for.
Ask yourself, is it worth it?

EtherC
26-09-2008, 12:51 PM
Apparently Singaporeans are so badly spoon fed that they don't even know how to utilise information which is already put in front of their faces. I mentioned prenatal paternity tests did I not? A prenatal paternity test is a conclusive way to determine if a man is the father of an unborn child. It is an option for those who do not wish to wait until the baby is born to determine paternity.

_AXL_
26-09-2008, 01:59 PM
talked to my parents about a gf getting pregnant...... (didn't say two coz I think they would want me to abort both)

mother's ok with it but father is skeptical and wants a DNA test once baby is born. he wants me to register in china and report to singapore embassy. then baby born n tested mine then arrange for both mother n child to come be sg PR........... the tricky part now is I think I will be forced to choose only one gf..........

TS, i dont envy u or yr sticky situation now...

but there is something i dont understand... why the fuck r u still lying to yr family now???!!! no time liao, out with the truth!!! if yr family cannot help u, nobody can!!! if u cant trust yr family, then i dont know who u can trust liao!!! the govt???:mad:

and refer to bro EtherC's post i have quoted below in case u didnt see it. prenatal tests sometimes have the effect of scaring away the pretenders before the tests are even administered...:p

and whatever u do, dont lie and procrastinate already. yr family deserves to know the whole truth before they can advise u properly.

Apparently Singaporeans are so badly spoon fed that they don't even know how to utilise information which is already put in front of their faces. I mentioned prenatal paternity tests did I not? A prenatal paternity test is a conclusive way to determine if a man is the father of an unborn child. It is an option for those who do not wish to wait until the baby is born to determine paternity.

porscheclub
26-09-2008, 03:02 PM
Apparently Singaporeans are so badly spoon fed that they don't even know how to utilise information which is already put in front of their faces. I mentioned prenatal paternity tests did I not? A prenatal paternity test is a conclusive way to determine if a man is the father of an unborn child. It is an option for those who do not wish to wait until the baby is born to determine paternity.

Interesting. Paternity Answers: Prenatal Paternity Tests - Non Invasive Prenatal DNA Testing (http://www.paternity-answers.com/paternity-prenatal-test.html)

But the lady has to be willing to go to a hospital first & not kick up a big fuss about doing this test.

Wonder if the hospitals in China has such services?

EtherC
26-09-2008, 04:51 PM
TS can just say that its a check for genetic diseases because he has hereditary diabetes or thalassemia. And besides paternity testing he really can order tests for genetic diseases as well.

Cervast
28-09-2008, 11:00 AM
okay, first of all don say me heartless.
Both of them, do u really love them and want to take care of them till the very end?
If u don't, u got an answer which one u love and which one u choose.
Abortion is bad though but having a baby don't actually mean good if u not going to responsible but please do give explanation to her and ask for forgiven for your act. Definitely if money help pay her at least u r not throwing her to die.
If u loved them both, there are two ways. One is host two weddings, and don't ever get caught in the end. But i believe paper can;t wrap fire.
The better way is be frank to both parties and see what the reaction.
And hope they both forgive u and if they really love u till they don't mind.
U are really lucky.
Or else the last alternative idea is, u tell the poor village girl that u are actually married. U are sorry, but hope she forgive u and hope she don't mind even u have a wife. Then since she know u have a wife, u can try to maintain both relationship.
As u say, both are your babies. Money issue i can only say the rich pay for u. But what u earn pay for the poor.
In the end, still up to u to decide. :o

Cervast
28-09-2008, 11:10 AM
If the rich say she will come with the baby to ask for justice, u should tell your family anyway. U can't change the fact. But one thing u can do is u can tell the rich girl that u are not heartless. If u want me to leave the poor girl. Then what kind of man am i, then should i leave both of u since i am heartless.
Then say u r really sorry and hope she understand that it not possible to leave anyone of u. And u really love the both of u. Try to control them and not to let them control. Cause seriously u can walk away from both of them and say i don love u at all. Sorry. Bye.:mad:

thedicknight
30-09-2008, 11:40 AM
JediSkull,
Be strong, life is full of decisions.
Encourage you to face the music which you insert the cd in the first place.
Not being sarcastic but words of encouragement and wisdom.

Thks for upping my rep when I was below 35 points.

RTTO
03-10-2008, 12:24 PM
Bro, I think you have to come clean with both your gfs. Let both know what happened now and for all you know, one of them cannot take it will abandon you. Then you wun be that stress leow. Else you not only will be emotionally stressed but financially as well. If both hear your story and still stick on you, you gotta choose one that you really wanna go long term with. Then offer the other monetary support or whatever you can think of (but let the one you chose know about your intention also). Unless you wanna play bastard and go MIA. Another way is to ask both to abort the bb (oh mi tuo fuo) and then take your time to settle down with one.

Let me share with you my case.... I am a married man with kids. All along i had a gf outside who knows that i am married but happily together enjoying one another's sexual desires. Then during my wife 2nd pregnancy period, my gf got pregnant also. :( she insisted on keeping the bb and asked me to go if i want to. But being an emotional guy, i accepted this fate god threw upon me.

My son with my gf is now 3 yrs old and so is my son with my wife. I broke off with my gf few mths back cos she no longer can accept the fact that everytime when she needed me to be ard, i am always not there cos I only have tie for her and the kid duing weekdays and office hour. Each time is like 4hrs to get-together and then i gotta go off.

I still see my son (gf) once a week... bring him out for makan or play. Life goes on. It pretty much depends on how you look at things. Note that there is no one sze fits all solution or to have the best of both world. one party will definitely need to sacrifice a little.

my 2 cents worth. :)

DO_YOU_BJ
03-10-2008, 12:27 PM
Note that there is no one sze fits all solution or to have the best of both world. one party will definitely need to sacrifice a little.

Not quite true.
Put them all under one roof & no such concerns or worries liao.
Works for me:D

RTTO
03-10-2008, 12:28 PM
one more thing.... the poorer gal will prolly need you more than the rich gal. Financial will be the biggest challenge.... so think carefully and wisely.

RTTO
03-10-2008, 12:29 PM
Not quite true.
Put them all under one roof & no such concerns or worries liao.
Works for me:D

not everyone's as lucky as you are.... i also wished i can bring up my courage and tell my wife about my 2nd son. then have them under the same roof also.... *sigh* :(

DO_YOU_BJ
03-10-2008, 12:36 PM
not everyone's as lucky as you are.... i also wished i can bring up my courage and tell my wife about my 2nd son. then have them under the same roof also.... *sigh* :(

Well the kid's only 3 now.
Look further down the road my friend.......
Once the kid has reached an age of awareness.....he'll either hate you, shun on you, or come after you.
Karma dude.
Fulfill your deed and face the music like a storm, then clear skies and sunshine will be back again.

What i dun understand is that, this is not directed at you but generally, why men all dare to cheong, but infront of their wives like mice like that. Say they scared wife (which is the truth) they say no la, i respect. LPPL
Did it, face it, fix it or it'll sure come back to bite a big chunk off ya sooner of later.
Best, there's no running away, hiding etc....
Why act like an angel when actually you're an devil. Doesnt that mean not being your true self with your own wife? How long can this act go?

RTTO
04-10-2008, 12:09 PM
Well the kid's only 3 now.
Look further down the road my friend.......


*Sign* :( i know Bro... when my kid grows older, he'll definitely hate me for not giving him a proper family. Hopefully my ex finds a good man, get married and give him a proper family. We basically let our kid pay for the "fun" we get. :(

Everytime i bid him goodbye after each visit, i'll have the very "sour" thing inside of me.... cannot hurt my family for the mistake i made and at the same time wished i could do more for my other kid. :(

that's why now no going ard for free lunches.... but resort to paid services. No commitment, no emotional felings, just a transaction.

jiro666
04-10-2008, 12:33 PM
Bro its your choice but, if i were you, i'l come clean with both girls, even arrange for them to meet up. Then decide on one. Its cruel but i don't think love can be shared.

cablesnwires
04-10-2008, 02:10 PM
Dear bro TS, it is a lose lose situation. Do what you think is best. but do it with an open heart. Act responsible and no more lies. It's gonna haunt you.

A few points which you need to consider:

Poor Girl has no alternatives but to do what you decide, financially she has to depend on you. this, you need to think carefully and don't "bully" her just because she need to depend on you.

Rich girl has alternatives, she's rich. She can show you faces if things do not go her way. Remember like you said that she's the only child and she very well might have been spoilt by her parents.

If you decide to marry both of them, I hope you will not vent your anger and frustration generated by the rich girl onto the poor girl. It will not be fair.

Just remember: "ACT RESPONSIBLE!!"

DO_YOU_BJ
04-10-2008, 02:18 PM
*Sign* :( i know Bro... when my kid grows older, he'll definitely hate me for not giving him a proper family. Hopefully my ex finds a good man, get married and give him a proper family. We basically let our kid pay for the "fun" we get. :(

Everytime i bid him goodbye after each visit, i'll have the very "sour" thing inside of me.... cannot hurt my family for the mistake i made and at the same time wished i could do more for my other kid. :(


Sometimes not wanting to do that something is actually the best solution to solve the prob.
Just have to bite the bullet once.
Your situation is that you're stuck.
But from a woman's standpoint, their compassion for the kid will come to play, so strategically, its a win for you.
For all you know, you may even end up with the best results.
3 possibilities that will come out from this.

1) Wife accepts 3yr old kid and ask the other woman to F off.....good for her too cos she can start life afresh and your other kid gets a family nucleus
2) 1st wife accepts other woman due to kid
3) one party decides to walk away from everything.....

Conclusion, the boll is no more in your court and the final decision is not yours but theirs........you've confessed and thus embrace the outcome that was meant to be.
Now, you try to play god that is sooooo tiring for you.
孙子兵法bro......

ilovelife.now
07-10-2008, 03:15 AM
Holy Sh*t! one guy has 2 gf's pregnant and we have 106 pages?? WTF!

Ok - I am shocked thats why the exclamations above. Bro, bring both of them to same place and tell them the truth. Obviously you cant decide what to do. However, would support poor girl since she doesn't have money to hide the secrets..

Think again bro.. and tell us what happened!

JediSkull
08-10-2008, 07:35 AM
Latest update:

Told both gfs......... i chose to tell the poor gf 1st to check out her reaction.... she got real upset and asked me who do i really love...... she left the decision with me.......

then i called my rich gf and told her..... she got mad and started screaming at me on the phone....... she then told her mum who got real upset and started telling her that she can intro better men to her and she should abort and get on with her life........... however rich gf refuses to do so, on the phone threatened me saying that no matter wat she will give birth to the child and she would only marry me and no other men. i told her to calm down but to no avail..... i juz said "xuan zhe zai yu ni" = "the decision is yours to make"....... then i told her i was sorry and put down my call...... she started calling back but i did not pick up..... later on she sms me tat no matter wat she will be waiting for me with the baby and begged me to give up my other girl to be with her..........

that was a few days back........ now the real problem starts...... my parents got to know I got a china gal pregnant and are against any marriage...... examples of friends&relatives started popping up...... I even got an old auntie calling me (mum's fren) who said:"ah di ah, u know china gal will always ask for money one. better dun marry hor. my son marry one. her father died in china she ask for SGD$6k for funeral, go back liao ask for more. QI SI LANG(anger ppl)!" then dad's fren who is from ICA tells me of cases whereby china wives get citizenship, abandon kids and husband........or else bring family come sg stay long term.........dad's fren even ask me make sure go for DNA testing......:(

right now I am taking things into my own hands...... I will marry one of my gfs. but I do not know how to go about doing that. things explained to me by that ICA uncle wasn't clear enough. he says I can register in china but have to inform singapore embassy in china. whereas my poor china gf checked and told me I have to get some kinda certification from singapore to prove i'm not married here before i can register for marriage in china.........

concerns are: I am now a student though I have income, I do not declare them. thus the difficulty of bringing my gf here for ROM. But I wish my kid to be a sg citizen rather than a PRC citizen. anyone here wif experience in going about registering marriage overseas and getting it recognised in sg? :(

mebirdie
08-10-2008, 09:40 AM
concerns are: I am now a student though I have income, I do not declare them. thus the difficulty of bringing my gf here for ROM. But I wish my kid to be a sg citizen rather than a PRC citizen. anyone here wif experience in going about registering marriage overseas and getting it recognised in sg? :(

I still cannot find you recently. SMS, QQ, MSN also no reply.

Bringing her for ROM is not so difficult. The difficult is that how to get dependent pass to let her stay longer. Many examples of non-working ah pek prove that.

Why don't you register marriage in Singapore? There is no differences since you cannot be married again if marriage registered overseas.

For that, it will be more easier for the kid or kidsss.

naemlo
08-10-2008, 12:16 PM
he says I can register in china but have to inform singapore embassy in china.


U can get marry in any part of china and update your marriage status in SG. If you do a google search, you can find ton of info. Anyway for the benefit of others.

What are the common things I need to know, as a Singaporean/PR who have married overseas?

1) The law does not require couples who contracted marriages overseas to re-register (includes "converting" or "endorsing" a foreign marriage certificate) with the Singapore ROM. The marriage certificate issued by the competent authority of the foreign country may be accepted as prima facie evidence of a marriage between the parties named in the certificate.
2) You may update agencies which you have dealings with, about your new marital status. For example, you may wish to update your marital status with CPF Board (Central Provident Fund) to change nomination of CPF beneficiary.
3) If you wish to insert your husband's name into your identification documents, you may contact the Immigration & Checkpoints Authority.
4) If your spouse is a foreigner and you like to obtain permanent residence or citizenship for him/her, you may seek the advice of the Immigration & Checkpoints Authority.





whereas my poor china gf checked and told me I have to get some kinda certification from singapore to prove i'm not married here before i can register for marriage in china.........


Ya u need a letter claiming u r single in SG. Again you google for it, for the benefit of others.

Marriage Registration in China (http://www.china-embassy.org/eng/hzqz/fhjh/t84256.htm)

CashRider85
08-10-2008, 01:35 PM
sighz........ dilemma.....

Here's my story:
both are china chinese...... one rich one poor. Told some bros about my problem.

One is a Temasek Poly Grad. (Rich girl from szechuan, tall and pretty was working for awhile till she got pregnant and went back told her parents!) When I bought clearblue and she tested pregnant in Singapore, she asked me "zen me ban?". I told her "bu zhi dao.) she take water bottle and hit me.......... then I had to reason to her that this is not ONLY MY PROBLEM BUT ITS OUR PROBLEM. Then she calm down abit....... Her father is a banker(dunno which farmer bank!) and mother is a doctor. Mum knows I'm currently a full time student and offerred to pay for the wedding that would be held in China. Keeps pressuring me to go hold the wedding.........


Another WAS applying for NYP (got to know her from my fellow china schoolmates!) Very caring girl, goes out with me always take food and feed me...... makes me feel good. (petite SYT from Henan was applying for design course in NYP, was waiting for placement till she got pregnant and I told her to go back n wait for my news) A few weeks ago, she smsed me that she dreamt I was talking to friends about having 2 GFs and DUNNO WHICH ONE TO CHOOSE! And when she called out to me..... I ignored her.... Which made her very very sad. She asked if what she dreamt is TRUE?!?! It was impossible that she knew I had 2 GFs......(now I really bliff that girls' sixth sense can be so eerily ZHUN!)
her mum recently also talked to me, tell me not to abandon her daughter becoz her family members are poor farmers! Never ask money from me, juz say if possible come to village to hold wedding. Her mother like tat talk to me on the phone, really makes my heart soften alot.......

I calculated and knows it wun cost much (estimate less than SGD10k) Houses cost about SGD50-60k (in the suburbs)...... But looking at the bloody downturn in the US economy, I'm thinking property prices in China's gonna plunge even further........ Its really not a good time to buy a house for my gf....but seems like a necessity as I understand that the village is a comfortable place for my gf's current condition.

Both 3months+ Pregnant liao!!! Both call me everyday asking me when I going China! I think I am going nuts liao lar............ I really no heart to ask my young SYTs to go abort!!! :(

Low Sex Drive ever since I know both were pregnant...... And yes both pregnant ARE MY KIDS(they'r not WLs nor FLs.)

Most frens ask me to abandon both or choose one....... but I still cannot decide and time is running out!!!! :(

(PS: I dun think I wan my kids to be commy bastards!!! OMG!!! WHAT SHOULD I DO SIA?!?!)

Bro become muslim so you can marry four... Haha just kidding.. :D Maybe you can ask yourself which one you love the most.. who can take care of you for richer or for worst ;)

siopu99
09-10-2008, 02:34 AM
sighz........ dilemma.....

Here's my story:
both are china chinese...... one rich one poor. Told some bros about my problem.

....

(PS: I dun think I wan my kids to be commy bastards!!! OMG!!! WHAT SHOULD I DO SIA?!?!)

First off, let your parents blast you. Then seek their advice. You still have to make the final decision because it is your life and that of your 2 children in the long road ahead that you have to think about.

As far as possible, try not to go for abortion. They might haunt you until the day you die. You will see if you have a 3rd eye. Ok...., we're not gonna be talking about hauntings here.

You have to come clean to both of them but do it with lots and lots of tact. You won't want one of them to run off and commit suicide.

Or you can quietly marry both and not register the marriage. Be a man and work your ass off to give them both families of yours a happy family life. Split your income across the 2 families. Tell them your job requires lots of travel, etc. That way you can manage both sides without them knowing about each other. But it's not an easy way to go about.

I'm married too, have kids and now GF is pregnant. She wants the bb and now I am working extra and making sacrifices of personal time to ensure that both sides gets the same amount of attention and financial support and are happy.

You've got to be responsible for that short moment of 'si beh song' feeling when you cum into their holes lah.

JediSkull
09-10-2008, 06:13 AM
thanks bro naemlo, if i got more queries sure call you up......... :) damn sad sia..... i going on a solo mission to WUHAN to hold a wedding banquet there....

LianLover
15-10-2008, 05:44 PM
many bros have provided insightful advice that i would probably have said too...

hence my advice is to....choose the one who is pregnant with a boy....cos u wouldnt want retribution for ur actions to fall upon a daughter....not that it shld befall ur son...but seems the lesser of 2 evils...lol

tungsten
12-11-2008, 08:36 AM
Hmm...

The following choices are availiable

- Dump Both
If you do so, you are a bastard x 2 ... Period

- Cohabit with both
No legal status for either of them. More taxing on your kids when comes to school age and etc.

- 1 as wife and 1 as mistress
Not sure how you going to handle that. Eventually over time, the one who is being selected as "wife" will try to squeeze out the mistress. Mistress kid will also be likley to be ostricised even if he/she is adopted.

- Marry one then divorce and marry the second
Solve your wife/mistress status problem. Though the procedure is likely to take much longer then your kid coming out from the womb. Seeking annul of marriage is not going to work since there is 'proof' of the marriage is being consumate.

- Convert to Muslim and keep both
Are you kidding me? I believe there is definitely some repurcussions. Otherwise there will be tons of people who want to convert first to fill the quota then convert back. Not sure of the exact details. But doubt that it is so easy.

If you love one more than the other, I would suggest that you marry her and support the other financially untill she gets married again.

If you love both the same ... you think you are Duan Wang Ye huh.

Anyway I will just tell both girls that I will not give up either one of them because I love both equally. They either go with my options (likely to be cohabit and get parents to adopt) or come out of it. If only one chose to stay, she will be the wife. I will also tell the rich girl that if she going to behave like a spoil brat and bully the poor girl, I will dump her immediately. No wedding dinner for both. Reunion dinner (if this minor thing is still on your mind), go alternate. Perhaps like rich girl 1 year then poor girl the other year. If you think it is too taxing, do not go to both to be fair. Wei Xiao Bao managed to keep the princess spoil brat in check by having another 6. Apply game theory in this scenario. there are two buyers but only one seller. You have the monopoly power, apply it in an responsible manner and you got chance to come out of this alive.

Though I repeat.... DO NOT go to China before this thing is resolved. If not, there will always be chances that you will be hacked to death by the girl's angry parents/relatives/friends and etc...

5stars
12-11-2008, 05:39 PM
I am one of the curious chap - curiously waiting for you to tell us which girl you choose to be with in the end..

End of the day, I hope you will find the best option, of course a Win-Win situation for all the affected parties would be nice.

An advice for you - Please wear cap if you do not wish to have unexpected pregnancy again..

Please update us.

pussyman72
12-11-2008, 08:26 PM
Marriage Registration in China (http://www.china-embassy.org/eng/hzqz/fhjh/t84256.htm)

wah when u become adviser ah know u for sometime why u no advice me ah :p

darkangel
13-11-2008, 12:45 AM
The more I see it:

I pity you because your sex life would not be any much better from now onwards.

If you choose the rich China girl you will get hen pecked and under tight survey since she knows about your extra activities when out of sight. You will find sex boring with her since she has tight control over you.

If you choose the poor China girl you will have to work your ass off to give your family a better life, where got the energy for sex when especially there is no time also.

However it is good to share your story here as many will benefit from the experiences that you have been thru. Just my 2 cents.

silent:hunter
15-11-2008, 11:33 PM
in deep shit liow still calculating property? is it possible to have 2 family?? grow up friend...

ask yrself, what is it that u wan in life?

kaoz..

KonKam
26-11-2008, 04:21 PM
Not sure whether i should pity TS or not?

Frankly speaking,
easier way is to get both girl go for abortion when they are still in singapore time.

Now,
U choose or not also die,definitely one party will come out loser and marrying both definitely is a going to be a great hurdle.

Put karma aside as it is happening to u now,dude.

i really wouldn't wan to be in your shoe now.

The best option is marry both somehow(if possible lah) and bring them to singapore and dividing your fatherly duties to both of this ladies.

Really a messy affair..

Angel.Janus
26-11-2008, 04:24 PM
TS posted this in Sept... and the gals already at 3+ months... now should be at about 6 months liao ba?

dunno how he decided...

johnny21
28-11-2008, 02:13 AM
hunan bah???

Stud00
30-11-2008, 12:39 AM
bro..don know wat to say about you.
wanna play.. play safe and responsible la...w.t.f...

BeCkHaM_
30-11-2008, 06:50 AM
1 word - cowboy

lblittlebear
30-11-2008, 08:08 AM
24 mths ? By then the baby would be out already and have his 2nd birthday cake :D

Between the Devil and the deep blue sea. I don't envy your position. Since lives are at stake here I won't become the devil's advocate by advising which girl to dump. Bro Colins has offered a sensible suggestion which is to come clean with both girls. Sit down and have a good talk with the two girls. Consider your own financials and alternatives like giving the baby up for adoption etc. A DNA test to show if you're the father should be performed as well, although expensive it is less expensive than parenting someone else's baby. Call the various hospitals to check if their lab does prenatal paternity testing. Mount Elizabeth & Thomson Med Center might have this service. Time is not on your side as abortion has a legal limit of 24mths in SG. So you better get off your ass and do something. Condoms are very friendly, learn to use them before you're forced to learn responsibility.

EtherC
30-11-2008, 09:51 AM
24 weeks. Bad typo. My bad.

Viet_Cong
30-11-2008, 01:49 PM
Wah bro JediSkull, you are a hero

JediSkull
02-12-2008, 01:27 PM
A hero I am not, but I am definitely a happy man! My rich gf will be having a son without getting married with me....... while my wife (the poor girl) and I held wedding banquets in China (Henan Province XinYang Prefecture PingQiao District) and Singapore. ROM date registered liao.... solemnisation will be in December! I hope she gives me a son too...... though many friends and relatives say its better to gave daughters nowadays. I am just glad I have a son now, so nothing really matters except trying to bring in more dough to feed my families!!! :D as u can see, I seldom post liao... coz I am now really working towards building up a stable family. no more cheonging for now i guess.....:o

shanshen
02-12-2008, 03:24 PM
A hero I am not, but I am definitely a happy man! My rich gf will be having a son without getting married with me....... while my wife (the poor girl) and I held wedding banquets in China (Henan Province XinYang Prefecture PingQiao District) and Singapore. ROM date registered liao.... solemnisation will be in December! I hope she gives me a son too...... though many friends and relatives say its better to gave daughters nowadays. I am just glad I have a son now, so nothing really matters except trying to bring in more dough to feed my families!!! :D as u can see, I seldom post liao... coz I am now really working towards building up a stable family. no more cheonging for now i guess.....:o

Well done, bro.. u good good... seems yr problem resolve for the time being..
yr rich gf didnt kick up a fuss? she is willing to be a single mother?

CelestialBeing
02-12-2008, 05:30 PM
Bro, how did u convinced ur rich gf to not marry u? What will happen between u and ur rich GF's son? You pay for child support or what?

JediSkull
03-12-2008, 04:07 AM
Bro, how did u convinced ur rich gf to not marry u? What will happen between u and ur rich GF's son? You pay for child support or what?

It was a tough choice...... I told her about my poorer gf whom I will marry... She tells me she will not marry another man and will work hard to make me regret my decision........ I have her china bank account which I will remit money to compensate her....... she can choose to close the account if she doesn't want my money(not that she even needed it in the 1st place)..... Her parting words to me on the phone is that she will raise my son, take photos of him and blog it up in her QQ so I can see my son's progress in china........ :( she ended her call saying she would wait for me and only time will prove her resilence...... seriously speaking.... friends who know me will know that I am a big fat ugly slob.... I think she deserves someone better........ haiz......

colins
03-12-2008, 04:39 AM
It was a tough choice...... I told her about my poorer gf whom I will marry... She tells me she will not marry another man and will work hard to make me regret my decision........

.....Her parting words to me on the phone is that she will raise my son, take photos of him and blog it up in her QQ so I can see my son's progress in china........ :( she ended her call saying she would wait for me and only time will prove her resilence...... seriously speaking.... friends who know me will know that I am a big fat ugly slob.... I think she deserves someone better........ haiz......

This girl is playing mind games with you bro. Dun worry your choice will not be a regretable one. She knows your decision is final and bottomline on her side is to see your mind confused. Can see she is cleverer than you and your life will forever be filled with regrets if you cannot confront this within yourself. There will be more coming from her, definitely, hold on the ride bro. She is the type who if given the resource and chance, will seek to destroy you rather than to wish you all the best with another girl. Love for the relationship and you, will forever be least important to the love for herself. I pity your son as he may turn into an object of frustration and constantly reminds her of her failure.

As of now, if you have already decided on this, you put your own resiliance on your own decision. Saying that you are the big fat ugly slob is just your way of showing your white flag, this will only lead you to 2 conclusions, 1. regret 2. suffer whenever the rich girl dish out punishment. Reality is you are taking on this path and she is now the controller of your regret/no regret factor. To save yourself, do not let this decision make you regret, in this way she can no longer control you. For that you have to confront it, lose her lose your son, your happiness against their happiness, be selfish or let her bash you for life. If you think letting her bash you for life is agreeable, then make sure your chosen wife knows, otherwise both will start bashing you FOR LIFE.

Solve this before the baby comes to the world. If you can, think of a plan to help your son.

JediSkull
04-12-2008, 04:54 PM
This girl is playing mind games with you bro. Dun worry your .................Solve this before the baby comes to the world. If you can, think of a plan to help your son.

can't let my wife know..... wait she cannot take it...

Xgenre
05-12-2008, 03:07 AM
You better pray your 2nd child is a boy too. Otherwise 1 boy and 1 girl, forward 21 years later and you'll have a taiwainese tv drama. Such stories aren't written without it ever happening before.

EtherC
05-12-2008, 11:53 AM
Change is constant and time is an excellent solvent. She will meet new men and carry on with her life. This so called steadfast resolve will most likely dwindle as the years pass.

年少气盛 不知蹉跎岁月, 转眼之间发带银丝 便知珍惜眼前人。

ilovelife.now
05-12-2008, 12:20 PM
Has been a long time.. what happened brother?

madness88
05-12-2008, 12:52 PM
Bro at least gt got gf to love and fk lor i wan to find a girl to love mi aready very hard let alone fk la

Armstrong
05-12-2008, 02:25 PM
You better pray your 2nd child is a boy too. Otherwise 1 boy and 1 girl, forward 21 years later and you'll have a taiwainese tv drama. Such stories aren't written without it ever happening before.

Wah Seh bro, you really can imagine ah. :D Not so easy even if one is son and another is daughter.

JediSkull
07-12-2008, 03:33 AM
Wah Seh bro, you really can imagine ah. :D Not so easy even if one is son and another is daughter.

scanned n found the one in sg is a princess! my wife is upset coz doctor in china was telling her was a boy and she even bao a 100rmb ang bao to the cheena dr back then!...... i juz brought her out for a walk and told her no matter wat is my child I will still give the same love and care. I know she's afraid that I am disappointed.... and I know that if I do show my disappointment she will be depressed.... such is life!!!! :(

ToxicHex
07-12-2008, 11:44 AM
Read ur story n i think u are one hero dudey. At least its more or less settled. Well..if u haf one boy one girl, at least its a dragon n a phoenix then. I see that u r studyin, so focus n get to work asap.

I don't noe ur age...but marriage is a pile of bull crap weighing on ur shoulders. Quarrels will come, financial woes will stay, The young ones will slow u down. Commit urself to make it work cos its gonna be easy to let it go once the fire sizzles. & belief me, u will feel it soon. I've seen it happen many times....

Dun fret n may the force of SBF be w u! Gd luck!

Boost
09-12-2008, 08:58 PM
Well

Congrats Bro JediSkull... all the best for your marriage.

Be strong! I find the headstrong ones always a pain... Better as a gf then a wife. :) TeeHeeHee....

AJamal
11-12-2008, 06:02 AM
Congratulations, bro, it looks like you have achieved a solution.

Small note: have you considered a vasectomy? I get the impression you've got some very fierce sperm, and the last thing you need is yet another kid, right? :D

Best wishes for your future as a husband and dad. It won't be easy, but now you have a definite direction.

JediSkull
14-12-2008, 03:07 AM
Congratulations, bro, it looks like you have achieved a solution....Best wishes for your future as a husband and dad. It won't be easy, but now you have a definite direction.

hmmmm..... actually I'm trying for little male tigers next year.....;) my wife is sad when she knows I was disappointed.... so I have to start reading up on what sexual positions and food is good for my XY sperms swim faster than my XX sperms! at least I know I am capable of XY sperms since my china gf is gonna have my son. I still cannot really let go of my other "wife". she still sms me! she's putting me in a very difficult and dangerous position.... :(

PepeReina
14-12-2008, 05:04 PM
年少气盛 不知蹉跎岁月, 转眼之间发带银丝 便知珍惜眼前人。

This quote come with life experience. The older you get the more reflection on earlier past...:rolleyes:

ING ING
15-12-2008, 11:11 PM
If 4D strike 2 times is good. But kanna 2 shot gun headache sia:rolleyes:

2nd uncle
23-12-2008, 07:01 PM
Wah 1 stone kill 2 birds :D

PepeReina
24-12-2008, 05:26 PM
Wah 1 stone kill 2 birds :D

Was about to say the same :D

JediSkull
24-12-2008, 05:45 PM
Wah 1 stone kill 2 birds :D

yeah.. one stone kill 2 birds but juz hope 2 birds dun drop from sky and hit me on the head...... tat's 2 birds kill one man! :eek:

zhaonan
15-01-2009, 07:13 AM
So yr wife and u back in Spore?

yingge
16-01-2009, 07:43 AM
Bad things never come in 1.

haoyunqiqi
17-01-2009, 07:56 AM
Bad karma, don't know for u or yr kids?

muguamugua
17-01-2009, 09:12 PM
Don't know to cry or smile?

JediSkull
18-01-2009, 03:06 AM
So yr wife and u back in Spore?


yeah........ married and staying at my place. ;)

JediSkull
18-01-2009, 03:10 AM
Bad karma, don't know for u or yr kids?

dun think i did anything wrong....... :mad: i took responsibility for wat i did.

if having many wives and many kids will bring bad karma? then those rich fucks i know should be bankrupt by now! :rolleyes: so many mistresses and so much money! even when economy is bad, they still flying 1st class as solitare passengers for holidays overseas. tell them about bad karma..... :rolleyes:

ChaYen
18-01-2009, 09:49 AM
Simple solution:

Be like the Thais and have both as wives lah. Since you already ROM the poorer gf, then take the other gf as mia noi (small wife) lah. And at least then you have the opportunity to take responsibility for your actions. When both babies come out, have your names on the kids birth certs so at least they can grow up with a father, and your surname. (As well as whatever legal rights they deserve.)

So you will have to pay penance for your actions the rest of your life, but at least your conscience will be clear, and you never know how they might all turn out in the future. :)

yongzhen
18-01-2009, 10:15 AM
dun think i did anything wrong....... :mad: i took responsibility for wat i did.

if having many wives and many kids will bring bad karma? then those rich fucks i know should be bankrupt by now! :rolleyes: so many mistresses and so much money! even when economy is bad, they still flying 1st class as solitare passengers for holidays overseas. tell them about bad karma..... :rolleyes:

I think he meant that u only took responsibility for only 1 gal and kid.
How abt the other pair?
Since yr income is limited, u can only care for 1 pair.
So I think u didn't see this part of it.

JediSkull
27-01-2009, 04:07 AM
I dun wanna sound arrogant but I can afford to upkeep my "other" family. In fact, I still send money to my "rich gf".......... :( only thing now is I have to decide whether to cut off ties with her totally.... tough decision to make especially when she has already told me that I can see my son's progress via her QQ blog.

DO_YOU_BJ
27-01-2009, 04:14 AM
if having many wives and many kids will bring bad karma? then those rich fucks i know should be bankrupt by now! :rolleyes: so many mistresses and so much money! even when economy is bad, they still flying 1st class as solitare passengers for holidays overseas. tell them about bad karma..... :rolleyes:

Bro Jedi, I have to say i totally DISAGREE and feel very INSULTED by your statement.
The diff between those you mentioned and you is that they are responsible for all parties involved........thus no one was left disadvantaged.
Whereas for you, one was saved and the other was left in the lurch........
So maybe you wanna tell me what bad karma is all about...cos i'm one of the above you mentioned...though not rich....

JediSkull
27-01-2009, 04:33 AM
hmmmm........ ask haoyunqiqi.

haoyunqiqi : Bad karma, don't know for u or yr kids?
I was replying to this bugger! bad karma to me or my kids?! what does this bugger know?! I'm trying to say there'r other similar cases as to my case.

IT IS ME WHO have to say i totally DISAGREE and feel very INSULTED by your statement.

The diff between those you mentioned and you is that they are responsible for all parties involved........thus no one was left disadvantaged.
(You are making comparisons unfairly. Who are you to judge others? From your signature, you indicate that you have 4 wives. So how do you ensure that noone is left disadvantaged? You have kids by different wives too?)

Whereas for you, one was saved and the other was left in the lurch........
(I did not save anyone or left anyone in the lurch. What you said is based on your own assumption.)

So maybe you wanna tell me what bad karma is all about...cos i'm one of the above you mentioned...though not rich....
(anyway the above statement is an oxymoron. coz if you are not one of the rich fucks I am talking about then don't FEEL INSULTED. EVEN IF you are one of those rich fucks! then PLS ASK haoyunqiqi regarding bad karma coz that was what he posted that prompted my post...................)

anyway bro, I am not here for a quarrel...... Just wondering why you suddenly jump into this thread having total disagreement and feeling insulted when that post is not even meant for you............

DO_YOU_BJ
27-01-2009, 05:22 AM
My 1st post in being responsible

http://www.sammyboyforum.com/matters-heart/94475-double-whammy-i-got-2-gfs-pregnant.html#post3070907

Your post wif regards to responsibility 19-09-2008, 08:10 AM
http://www.sammyboyforum.com/matters-heart/94475-double-whammy-i-got-2-gfs-pregnant-4.html#post3075605

Your post dated 24-09-2008, 12:09 AM
http://www.sammyboyforum.com/matters-heart/94475-double-whammy-i-got-2-gfs-pregnant-6.html#post3088883

My post dated 24-09-2008, 12:46 AM
http://www.sammyboyforum.com/matters-heart/94475-double-whammy-i-got-2-gfs-pregnant-6.html#post3088982

Your post dated 24-09-2008, 01:02 AM
http://www.sammyboyforum.com/reputation.php?p=3089021

My post to you dated 24-09-2008, 01:42 AM
http://www.sammyboyforum.com/matters-heart/94475-double-whammy-i-got-2-gfs-pregnant-6.html#post3089147

Your post dated 08-10-2008, 08:35 AM
http://www.sammyboyforum.com/matters-heart/94475-double-whammy-i-got-2-gfs-pregnant-8.html#post3128611

Your post dated 02-12-2008, 01:27 PM
http://www.sammyboyforum.com/matters-heart/94475-double-whammy-i-got-2-gfs-pregnant-10.html#post3276130

Your post dated 03-12-2008, 04:07 AM
http://www.sammyboyforum.com/matters-heart/94475-double-whammy-i-got-2-gfs-pregnant-10.html#post3277805

Your post dated 04-12-2008, 04:54 PM
http://www.sammyboyforum.com/matters-heart/94475-double-whammy-i-got-2-gfs-pregnant-10.html#post3282147

Your post dated 14-12-2008, 03:07 AM
http://www.sammyboyforum.com/matters-heart/94475-double-whammy-i-got-2-gfs-pregnant-11.html#post3309063

Your post dated 18-01-2009, 03:10 AM
http://www.sammyboyforum.com/matters-heart/94475-double-whammy-i-got-2-gfs-pregnant-11.html#post3403113

Your post dated Today, 04:07 AM
http://www.sammyboyforum.com/matters-heart/94475-double-whammy-i-got-2-gfs-pregnant-12.html#post3424619

From the time this thing was posted till now, i've linked them all in here.
Why?
Cos from panic, till the time you were advised by several people including me to be responsible and not let an innocent kid die...let alone make a choice to only take 1 whereas the other is left out to dry! I will continue in my next post to complete this reply.

DO_YOU_BJ
27-01-2009, 05:39 AM
hmmmm........ ask haoyunqiqi.

haoyunqiqi : Bad karma, don't know for u or yr kids?
I was replying to this bugger! bad karma to me or my kids?! what does this bugger know?! I'm trying to say there'r other similar cases as to my case.
Shit stirrer and one liner....ignore him/her/it!!!!!
IT IS ME WHO have to say i totally DISAGREE and feel very INSULTED by your statement.

The diff between those you mentioned and you is that they are responsible for all parties involved........thus no one was left disadvantaged.
(You are making comparisons unfairly. Who are you to judge others? From your signature, you indicate that you have 4 wives. So how do you ensure that noone is left disadvantaged? You have kids by different wives too?)
Actually all are advantaged and none have kids other than my 1st legal wife
Whereas for you, one was saved and the other was left in the lurch........
(I did not save anyone or left anyone in the lurch. What you said is based on your own assumption.)
Not my assumption bro, you wrote it!
Today 04:07 AM JediSkull
Re: Double WHAMMY I got 2 GFs Pregnant
I dun wanna sound arrogant but I can afford to upkeep my "other" family. In fact, I still send money to my "rich gf".......... only thing now is I have to decide whether to cut off ties with her totally.... tough decision to make especially when she has already told me that I can see my son's progress via her QQ blog.
So maybe you wanna tell me what bad karma is all about...cos i'm one of the above you mentioned...though not rich....
(anyway the above statement is an oxymoron. coz if you are not one of the rich fucks I am talking about then don't FEEL INSULTED. EVEN IF you are one of those rich fucks! then PLS ASK haoyunqiqi regarding bad karma coz that was what he posted that prompted my post...................)
As mentioned above, i dun even recognise his/her/its existence
anyway bro, I am not here for a quarrel...... Just wondering why you suddenly jump into this thread having total disagreement and feeling insulted when that post is not even meant for you............
I know it wasnt meant for me just felt you shouldnt be so trigger happy

There have been several increase of shit stirrers and one liners in this forum lately so i will not even want to bother about their posts.
What i am upset wif your statement is how you just blatantly stereotyped some people and apply the word karma.

Now lets use your situation as the benchmark here.
You got 2 gals preggers...ok good for you.
None aborted.....ok too bad
Now you choose one and the other you claim to send money to her & she lets you see progress of the kid on a blog?????????who happens to be yours but will grow up without the genetic father.............
Then you say you cant seem to let her go blah blah
Now which part of what you said results to responsibility?
Yes you are but you only fixed 50% of the probs u created and the other one, the rich one is fucked with a baggage for life......and you can say cant seem to forget....meaning you trying to out of sight out of mind already.......

Yes i have 4, only 1st legal wife has my kids but the others dont and thats the agreement that they have to live wif should they decide to enter this family.......also, and most importantly, they're all housed under one roof wif me!!!!!

Last but not least, you're right, i'm not here to quarrel wif you, but that guy who ticked you off did mention something that i simply cant disagree wif....KARMA...........
You said you earn good money though not declared....so, be responsible and dun let the other kid grow up without his/her biological father...meaning you.
This my friend, you owe the baby one!
Avoid this responsibility, and karma will surely follow!

Just my 2cents worth........me close case....all the best bro
You know me, i only say what's worth saying......cheers:p

JediSkull
27-01-2009, 05:48 AM
I appreciate the advice given by many bros here, inclusive of you. I don't want to sound ungrateful. But decisions were made on my own part and largely not influenced by anyone. My decision had always been pro life, only problem is the marriage issue. I wanted the two babies but I couldn't marry both girls legally.

I married my current wife and she told me she was very touched by my efforts when I made my way to china to hold the wedding banquet alone. My relatives were all worried for my safety back then. My decision to choose my current wife instead of the "rich gf" is due to character differences. Ultimately I have to choose someone I think whom would be my ideal partner for life.

Bro do_you_bj, I think you have taken what I posted rather offensively. Really there was no intention of picking up an argument........:(

Right now problem lies with whether I should
1.keep my distance but still keep in touch so I might get a chance to see my son
2.cut off ties completely. might lose contact with son.
3.any other options?

Bro do_you_bj, I'm curious. Perhaps you can tell me how you managed to have 4 wives? Are they all wives or mistresses? Do you have kids by different women as well?

JediSkull
27-01-2009, 05:58 AM
ok..... you answered my questions. but do understand that my situation is very different from yours. It was 2 GFs pregnant.... and progressed to become 1 wife and 1 gf pregnant........

You cannot fault me just because I didn't marry the other girl right? I really dunno how to put this across without sounding like a bastard now..... but I never wanted to abort any of the babies in the 1st place.

Would you? Only yes and no are acceptable answers. (and please don't tell me you don't have to answer this question coz you wouldn't let this happen in the 1st place. that's what others said to avoid the question but its better they kept their mouths shut if they don't have an answer to this question.)

right now, I would love to be in a situation like yours. whereby all can live in harmony under one roof! you are one lucky guy!

actually I am thinking of keeping in touch with my gf, then progress to negotiating with wife in the future..... I dun think its advisable to discuss such issues when she is in an advanced stage of pregnancy right now...

DO_YOU_BJ
27-01-2009, 06:03 AM
I appreciate the advice given by many bros here, inclusive of you. I don't want to sound ungrateful. But decisions were made on my own part and largely not influenced by anyone. My decision had always been pro life, only problem is the marriage issue. I wanted the two babies but I couldn't marry both girls legally.
That's life my brudder, decision decisions decisions.....what you decide now you can actually see the outcome if you really, like i always say, have a clear mind

I married my current wife and she told me she was very touched by my efforts when I made my way to china to hold the wedding banquet alone. My relatives were all worried for my safety back then. My decision to choose my current wife instead of the "rich gf" is due to character differences. Ultimately I have to choose someone I think whom would be my ideal partner for life.
Yes, that's called a wife but that doesnt mean that all are fated to have only one...legally yes but the fate of marraige is not always meant on just one.....like some who arent even ever fated to get married....even if they do, also not long

Bro do_you_bj, I think you have taken what I posted rather offensively. Really there was no intention of picking up an argument........:(
Like i said my brudder, case closed...let's move on and peace:D

Right now problem lies with whether I should
1.keep my distance but still keep in touch so I might get a chance to see my son
There is no such solution in life my brudder, you gotta take a side. You cant sit on the fence for this case and you know it. Unless you're heartless
2.cut off ties completely. might lose contact with son.
This one, can but i'm totally against this kinda decision...wife cut ties but son, innocent party...20mins of fun my brudder, the kid has to pay his entire life for you fun....not fair rite???????
3.any other options?
UNDER ONE ROOF! This is since you mention you can afford it.

Bro do_you_bj, I'm curious. Perhaps you can tell me how you managed to have 4 wives? Are they all wives or mistresses? Do you have kids by different women as well?
I own and run my stable.
Choices made were all of their free will and and none were forced or snooked into this situation.
The only real prob i ever faced was getting the 1st to accept the second, the the rest wasnt that difficult liao.
Love, damn i luv them like crazy and they me too.
All have to accept each other and honestly, sometime i feel like the outsider...they're very close and they go everywhere and do almost everything together.
Our legal system allows only 1 legal wife but the other 3 went through the customary dinners.......
Number 2 is local and 3 & 4 are PRC
I only have 1 kid, that's also because to be fair to my 1st wife. If all the others have kids, politics will ensue and when i die, World War 7 will erupt to fight for territory liao.........lucky me, all 4 dote on my kid like crazy! Dun really blame them since they arent allowed to have any.

Remember bro, u must let them know who's king, else they'll all be climbing over your head...you must love them all....but you musnt spoil any of them or show that you dote on one more than the other.

DO_YOU_BJ
27-01-2009, 06:14 AM
ok..... you answered my questions. but do understand that my situation is very different from yours. It was 2 GFs pregnant.... and progressed to become 1 wife and 1 gf pregnant........
Yes my brudder, i know you situation is very different but to me, your situation actually poses a golden opportunity for reconciliation for both women..one wife the other mistress.....this part, you have to use your charm and logic to DRILL into both their minds...remember, a kid is at stake here...so this is your trump card! So aint really that bad a situation anymore........to me that is

You cannot fault me just because I didn't marry the other girl right? I really dunno how to put this across without sounding like a bastard now..... but I never wanted to abort any of the babies in the 1st place.
Bastard????? No bro, no offense, it will be used on the poor fatherless kid, not you...who will grow up and hate her mother and prolly seek you out for revenge one day......cos if i were the kid, i'd definitely do that!!!!!

Would you? Only yes and no are acceptable answers.
I am a responsible man, and i will never run away from something like this if it happened to me....so the answer is YES, i'll keep the other mother and child and NO to abortion

right now, I would love to be in a situation like yours. whereby all can live in harmony under one roof! you are one lucky guy!
Thanks bro, but it was never easy getting there....remember, after the storm, there'll be calm.........so brave the storm...and calm will follow

actually I am thinking of keeping in touch with my gf, then progress to negotiating with wife in the future.....
Do not do that yet.......strike when the iron is hot!

I dun think its advisable to discuss such issues when she is in an advanced stage of pregnancy right now...
4-5months isnt advanced stage yet bro........here's my advise for you and do digest it well

DO_YOU_BJ
27-01-2009, 06:24 AM
The current situation you're in presents a golden opportunity.
Why?
Both are still preggers and baby has not popped out yet.
A very selfish decision has to be made and that's not by you, thus only this will not lead to bad karma.

Tell both wives that you're a man and will be responsible for your actions.
Wanna hate, hate you only for all other parties are totally innocent.
Since both r preggers, you have decided to keep both babies and women cos you're a responsible man!
That your decision is final.
Now to be fair to both parties, since you've already married one, take the other one in as mistress.
Advise them the inconvenience of staying apart, cos both kids and wives will have to share you meaning they'll only see you half the week.......
So sell the idea of all under one roof, no one will gain more or loose out more to the other and you'll always be there for them 24/7 as well as fulfilling your parental duties as daddy to the kids..............
This is your responsibility!!!!!!!!! Like it or not bro...........because you're EMPEROR of your stable, your word must be enforced by LAW...note, they're PRC, and if you show them a very serious and YOU MEAN WAT YOU'RE TOKING ABOUT LOOK, they'll know you mean business!!!!!!!!!
No negotiations allowed!

Sad part now, if because of this one decides to abort...then too bad...sigh...but then, consider yourself lucky, cos u didnt force her to do that...it was her own free will & thus this karma will befall on her solely and not you my brudder................but dun brainwash her and make it look like she did it though u instigated it...u know what i mean.

This one, sure can one bro.....me your sideline adviser......need more real time tactics, post em here ya

JediSkull
27-01-2009, 11:00 AM
its 7 months now for both of them...... not 4-5 months...... I will take your suggestions into consideration.... there'r other issues to worry...... my "gf" cannot travel to singapore till given birth coz of advanced pregnancy (even if I can convince and get her to come).

DO_YOU_BJ
27-01-2009, 11:03 AM
its 7 months now for both of them...... not 4-5 months...... I will take your suggestions into consideration.... there'r other issues to worry...... my "gf" cannot travel to singapore till given birth coz of advanced pregnancy (even if I can convince and get her to come).

Well my brudder, we all gotta flatten the ground before we lay the foundation ya......
Good luck!

Lormeelover
01-02-2009, 10:01 PM
Between the Devil and the deep blue sea. I don't envy your position. Since lives are at stake here I won't become the devil's advocate by advising which girl to dump. Bro Colins has offered a sensible suggestion which is to come clean with both girls. Sit down and have a good talk with the two girls. Consider your own financials and alternatives like giving the baby up for adoption etc. A DNA test to show if you're the father should be performed as well, although expensive it is less expensive than parenting someone else's baby. Call the various hospitals to check if their lab does prenatal paternity testing. Mount Elizabeth & Thomson Med Center might have this service. Time is not on your side as abortion has a legal limit of 24mths in SG. So you better get off your ass and do something. Condoms are very friendly, learn to use them before you're forced to learn responsibility.

24mths??? I tot pregnancy at most 10months... Giving birth to the next nezha?

DO_YOU_BJ
02-02-2009, 06:56 AM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KjW4i67YC04]

Chris Rock about Abortion

Bro JediSkull, was watching this the other day and thought i'd post it here for you to watch and have a good laugh in the end.
Also, the 2 logic that Chris Rock put forth, kinda makes sense.....hahahaha very low throwing the boll into someone else's court but you get the idea......enjoy

JediSkull
30-07-2009, 07:32 AM
juz a quick update. I married the poor girl and she is now my wife. she had my baby daughter. one week after my baby daughter, my baby son is born in china by my ex gf. she recently started blogging with pics of my son on QQ. I take great care not to logon to my QQ for fear my wife will know.

anyway life is good overall except for a few occassions whereby my wife gets "haressed" by fucking assholes when I am not with her! the haressment come in the form of hinting an indecent proposal..... this has caused my wife distress.... she's sweet and young looking but I'm not flattered by the approaches! She's disgusted by the fact that although she is carrying my baby daughter while she's shopping.... she still gets haressed!!! worse still when my wife went to the polyclinic for my baby's immunisation with my father..... only for those aunties to ask my wife(looks early twenties though mid twenties) if my dad(in his late fifties) is her husband!!! NBCB... are these sgreans really so dumb n narrow minded? my wife got so pissed that she called my dad:"PAPA" loudly to dispel those annoying looks from the public.
I can only thank god she wasn't sexually haressed for I would have gotten into a rage!!!

I can only wish that singaporean men can only stop treating all china girls as if they'r here to work as WLs or FLs!!!

(PS:Bro DYBJ thanks for ur previous advice. Anyway I sure hope the thread about the singer's blog ain't related to you directly. Coz it sure sounds related to another thread regarding "the art of keeping mistresses", if u get what I mean.)

Big Sexy
30-07-2009, 08:12 AM
You scum! your thread title suggest you must be very proud of what you did..
the only thing you probably did right is to marry one for them..
now go back to school and learn how to use a rubber..
You Dumbshit!:rolleyes::mad:


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BCB... are these sgreans really so dumb n narrow minded?

JediSkull
30-07-2009, 08:47 AM
what's ur problem big sexy? are you one of those kinda people i mentioned?

:rolleyes: u dun have to call me a scum rite? i ain't exactly proud of what i did! i had my fair share of emotional burden! bloody hell! u'r THE fucking dumbshit! :mad:

dun fucking assume!
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Big Sexy
30-07-2009, 09:02 AM
ok... scum..
read my lips. FUCKYOU!
i dont mince my words... you wanna act tough... come and get a piece of me..you DUMB ASS.. dont just go around getting gal pregnant and posting your fucking lousing achievements here.. Come and get a piece of me..:mad:

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what's ur problem big sexy? are you one of those kinda people i mentioned?

:rolleyes: u dun have to call me a scum rite? i ain't exactly proud of what i did! i had my fair share of emotional burden! bloody hell! u'r the fucking dumbshit! :mad: dun fucking assume!

Big Sexy
30-07-2009, 09:11 AM
KNN....CHILDISH!.. :mad: TIU!!!!!:mad:


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(PS: i know u juz wanna use this pic..... heh)

JediSkull
30-07-2009, 09:30 AM
I believe you are not taught any manners by ur parents (wonder if they are still alive)....... I didn't expect my response to provoke such a big response from u. obviously u'r a very disturbed being.....:rolleyes:

I didn't act tough. I was just giving the appropriate reply to ur nonsensical response in my thread. stop behaving like some neaderthal in here. your apparent anger that I made my gals pregnant might be due to some psychological or even physical defects that you have in real life? perhaps you'r suffering from impotency or on a lesser degree infertility?

I am not here to show off as I have friends in here who can testify that I'm not trumpeting my case. You however are trying to show your aggression online which I deemed is really childish on your part.

I think I have behaved more maturely than you in this aspect. Yes, you can fault me for not using condom. But that was a personal choice made by me at that point of time. Somehow I don't think what rational things I say will ever go thru that thick numbskull of yours.......:(

Big Sexy
30-07-2009, 09:45 AM
oh dear... you really come across as some libidinous youngster:rolleyes:

When you post on the BBS, you should be prepared for criticism, which you obviously isn;t....

NOW take your sarcasm & stick it up your youthful rectum...


I am not here to show off as I have friends in here who can testify that I'm not trumpeting my case.

JediSkull
30-07-2009, 09:55 AM
ok... scum..
read my lips. FUCKYOU!
come and get a piece of me..you DUMB ASS..fucking lousing achievements here..
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I cannot help but notice your consistent use of the middle finger pic (its really distasteful and most likely copied and not created by yourself).......

That's so crispy! (Think KFC! Think Original and Crispy!) YES YOU ARE CRISPY!

and also your poor grammar and inappropriate use of verbs and adjectives......

I couldn't stop myself from laughing when I see "fucking lousing achievements ". I think you meant fucking lousy achievements..... You'r looking from the wrong perspective as I said. I do not see what I have done as achievements! let alone using the word "lousy" to describe it! that's an OXYMORON! Just in case, you get into further misunderstanding. Do checkup on the word Oxymoron b4 you blast your vulgarities at me again.......

BTW if you want me to get a piece of you. Please leave your contact number and name behind so I can make the necessary arrangements to find you when given idle time. Much thanks and appreciation in advance. ;)

JediSkull
30-07-2009, 10:02 AM
oh dear...NOW take your sarcasm & stick it up your youthful rectum...

I believe in constructive criticism. Seriously Bro DYBJ earned my respect when he gave his advice to me although we did not share the same view!

All you did was come into my thread and assume that I was bragging and threw in expletives at me! you have not answered my questions in regards to your psychological behaviour.... but nevermind, I can always disregard you as someone who has gone senile.....:rolleyes:

Big Sexy
30-07-2009, 10:10 AM
oh you make me laugh you dumbshit...;)

it's clear you ain;t open to reasonable and rationale debate and is not ready for criticism when you post in the bbs.. what do you expect?... everyone to agree with what you did? grow up and stop being a teenager!:rolleyes:

come and get a piece of me....if you have the guts ok... no need to act tough here..i will pm you a place and you let me have the time and date..



I couldn't stop myself from laughing when I see "fucking lousing achievements ". Please leave your contact number and name behind so I can make the necessary arrangements to find you when given idle time. Much thanks and appreciation in advance. ;)

Big Sexy
30-07-2009, 10:18 AM
talk about my poor grammar and inappropriate use of verbs and adjectives...... etc etc etc...

one really have to be very careful on spelling, grammar punctuation etc as the usual 'intellects' of this board will nail you against a wall for it.:rolleyes:

I believe in constructive critism.

JediSkull
30-07-2009, 10:27 AM
YOU ARE THE DUMBSHIT! Please read and reply! stop using your expletives! It getting damn irritating!

READ WHAT I POSTED (BTW if you want me to get a piece of you. Please leave your contact number and name behind so I can make the necessary arrangements to find you when given idle time. Much thanks and appreciation in advance.)


You don't need to play gangster with me say: set place wait for me set place and time!

YOU are the one who ain't open to a reasonable and rationale debate!

You got guts you put your name and contact lor..... don't need to talk so much rite? U NEVER ANSWERED ANY OF MY QUESTIONS AND YOU GOT THE CHEEK TO CHALLENGE ME? I suspect you are mentally unsound and that warrants a lockup for you if u'r deemed dangerous to public!

NBCB siao lang tai lang bo sa lar one leh! mentally insane criminals do get away with capital punishment one leh!

Dun need to pte msg me say: dun talk so much set time n place. U'r the one acting like a teenager! for goodness sake! grow up! bloody hell! perhaps fatherhood really made me more mature than u! :confused: I have already given much leeway by not using expletives at you. Wonder when you will ever grow up? Don't mind me asking how old are you?!

Big Sexy
30-07-2009, 10:40 AM
Are you pissed???:D

hahha... gosh...did you think i want to book you for a session???
must give you my contact?????? you OKT or FL huh???

i already pm you the location... reply with the time and date..
Stop embarrassing yourself...:D

YOU ARE THE DUMBSHIT! Please read and reply! stop using your expletives! It getting damn irritating!

you got guts you put your name and contact lor..... don't need to talk so much rite? Dun need to pte msg me say: dun talk so much set time n place

Big Sexy
30-07-2009, 10:45 AM
mate....i love it when you say that...:D

So many nights I sit by my window
Waiting for someone to sing me his song
So many dreams I kept deep inside me
Alone in the dark but now
You've come along
You light up my life!!!!:D


It getting damn irritating!

JediSkull
30-07-2009, 10:51 AM
Yes u got to give me your contact number n name(can be a nickname)! SO THAT I KNOW WHO I AM GONNA FUCK! :mad: I am going to fuck u, not the other way round! Nevermind if U dun dare to do my biz! go peddle ur dumbass elsewhere! You are the one embarrassing yourself! btw WHAMMY means setback! how does this even equate to something to boast about? BLOODY ASSHOLE!

(PS:As usual, your replies do not address my questions. you really behave like your avatar. some irritating bug. heh.)

Big Sexy
30-07-2009, 11:15 AM
hei.. dont shout...you are scaring me now......

sorry mate...but i dont deal with OKT and FLs. :D
So how??? i have already give you the location an hour ago...... when are you going to let me have the time and date???

God must love stupid people; He made so many:rolleyes:

hei mate...if i dont get a response from you on the time and date.. i might consider bringing it up one level and insult your baby girl like you did to my family in your 2nd reply... so come to me baby!:p


some irritating bug. heh.)

JediSkull
30-07-2009, 11:34 AM
hei.. dont shout...you are scaring me now......
Ans: Yea rite.... after you threw expletives at me in the morning?! U'r living in some imaginary world whereby caps means shouting? geeee..... wake up to reality lar!

sorry mate...but i dont deal with OKT and FLs. :D
Ans: you are obviously in some state of denial. I am neither an okt nor a fl.

So how??? i have already give you the location an hour ago......
Ans:in your pte msg u put (bedok to geylang)! HA! such a big area! how u expect ppl to find u?

when are you going to let me have the time and date???
Ans: I asked for your contact 1st since you ask me to have a piece of you. But you have yet to REPLY!

God must love stupid people; He made so many:rolleyes:
Ans: Yes indeed. The stupidest one being u?

hei mate...if i dont get a response from you on the time and date.. i might consider bringing it up one level and insult your baby girl like you did to my family in your 2nd reply... so come to me baby!:p
Ans: I have enough of your nonsense for the day. Its either you leave a contact and let me access if you can be negotiated or you can just play gangster here. I have a real life, unlike you.

wah wah....... so how am i suppose to react now? HUH? :rolleyes: Funny how you want to dictate other people's lives! I know you are bored with yours and trying really hard to provoke response from others. Are you mentally ill? ok lar. back to work.

Big Sexy
30-07-2009, 11:43 AM
dont know how to response???? let me help you..
damn your baby gal and your family then..(are they still alive??? maybe not...Pui...)

talk so much but no gut to even come and meet for coffee... what are you??? asking for numbers????? you TELEPHONE NUMBER COLLECTOR is it???.. :rolleyes:

my offer to you still stand... i will meet you anywhere from bedok to kallang Airport to GL. you just have to let me know the date and time..;)



wah wah....... so how am i suppose to react now? HUH? :rolleyes:

Big Sexy
30-07-2009, 11:47 AM
Hei... come one man... i love it when it gets hot and messy...
hope you like that too...

why you still hiding behind the computer when your family
member are being abuse.. i didnt hide when you chose to abuse them???:rolleyes:

JediSkull
30-07-2009, 12:03 PM
you are the one hiding. not me. I asked for your contact to verify your identity. but you have chosen to intimidate me? cmon lar. who's the coward here? u give the contact, i make sure got ppl(I get my young and sexy secretary) will call and make arrangements one lar. So how? I know your ego very big. cannot argue lose. wanna come out come out lor. But I definitely got my means to check your identity 1st. What for I meet up with a stranger who might wanna do harm to me? I think I reserve the rights to protect my safety. Your life might be worthless but NOT MINE. :D

your outright refusal to answer many of my questions and unruly behaviour plus enjoying being irritating to others brings much doubt to your character in real life.

(PS:somehow my reasoning will not get across to an uncivilised person....):rolleyes:

newyorker88
30-07-2009, 12:10 PM
I married my current wife and she told me she was very touched by my efforts when I made my way to china to hold the wedding banquet alone. My relatives were all worried for my safety back then. My decision to choose my current wife instead of the "rich gf" is due to character differences. Ultimately I have to choose someone I think whom would be my ideal partner for life.


Right now problem lies with whether I should
1.keep my distance but still keep in touch so I might get a chance to see my son
2.cut off ties completely. might lose contact with son.
3.any other options?

Bro do_you_bj, I'm curious. Perhaps you can tell me how you managed to have 4 wives? Are they all wives or mistresses? Do you have kids by different women as well?

Good choice you made, since you married the one whom you believe you are more compatiable in terms of character.

As for your other child, the son, have you decided what to do? All parents love their children. But seriously, have you talked to both GF about it? You current wife is strong and supportive. But the rich one? What she plans about it? She will not stay single forever. And someday, you gona have to answer to your son( rich one), and teh relationship is going to be tricky.

I do suggest you talk it out with your "rich" one, and see whats the best for your child.

JediSkull
30-07-2009, 12:23 PM
bro newyorker88, I have chosen a life with my wife. my ex-gf will bring up our son in china with abit of financial support from me. She doesn't need it but its a token from my heart(perhaps even guilt). :( my ex gf has limited talk to only online QQ. she doesn't pick up my calls and I have given up calling already. both kids are few months old now. well....... I got families to feed. unlike some assholes here who obviously have nothing much to do in real life but to create trouble?:rolleyes:

I find the forum a nice place to discuss about our problems, as different people give different perspective and sometimes constructive solutions to those problems. minus out useless bums who pass useless comments. SBF is really the place for guys to converse. look at bro cassanova. he has the courage to tell people about the path he chose and shares his story with us. we must applaud his courage. but as usual, there will always be narrow minded or shallow people looking for trouble. they cannot accept this fact and went on to insult him. Its a real pity. bro cassanova is also another good contributor of content for the forum in coming to terms with marrying a WL.

As I reiterated in another post to Bro FL Lover, if u can tell ur frens dun be bookies. Y dun u tell those gals dun be FLs?

It takes ppl from all walks of life to make up this world. Noone can deny others' the personal choices they make.
R u a smoker? Do u recycle?
Anyone read abt the cost of a bottle of mineral/distilled water is equivalent to 85 times the cost of the same volume u get from ur tap water? Prof Tommy Koh is discouraging fellow citizens to avoid buying bottled water.

Anyway my point is Everyone is entitled to make their own choices in life as god helps those who help themselves.

;)

Big Sexy
30-07-2009, 12:28 PM
woh bro...you siao meh..... i just want to meet you for coffee... who say wanna to harm you...... i never said that... even though you insulted my family when it should have been on a personal level.

this will be my last post to you .. my offer to you will stand till the end of this week... after that let's see who is more resourceful in getting the other ID..

damn it .. i think i just wasted my time talking to a ball less asshole..
number collector..TIU! :rolleyes:


But I definitely got my means to check your identity 1st.
(PS:somehow my reasoning will not get across to an uncivilised person....):rolleyes:

JediSkull
30-07-2009, 12:46 PM
woh bro...you siao meh..... i just want to meet you for coffee... who say wanna to harm you...... i never said that... even i think i just wasted my time talking to a ball less asshole..
number collector..TIU! :rolleyes:

get the facts right Mr Ballless himself! how does talking to you warrant you to call anyone ballless asshole? perhaps you are directing this to yourself eh? face the FACT! Yes I want your number! But you are ballless to give me when I asked for it 1st. Please give the number before blabbering so much lar....... you are wasting everyone's time. And why would I even want to meet a guy like you? you certainly did not gain any respect from me with your insults flying in EARLY IN THE MORNING! only keep seeing you type FUCK and TIU + some obscene hand signs. I never say you intend to harm me. I find communication with you VERY DIFFICULT. Your constant insults belittles yourself. I am just playing it safe before I arrange a meetup with you if necessary. So what you wanna do now? po di tao or wat? you think i scared of such things meh? pls lar.... grow up.... u don't know me and I don't know u.
If you don't want to give a phone number, so be it. Don't have to keep insulting me to try and salvage whatever ego that's left in you. ;)

I can understand if you want to persist on, but pls remember that I may not be able to entertain you as consistently as you wish it to be........:rolleyes: anyway I will not extend any apologies for using nbcb. it can by any means mean anything but we all know what it can mean. u can by all means use knnbccb on me for all you want. I don't see that as an insult going to a personal level. ABBREVIATIONS CAN STAND FOR ANYTHING!

DO_YOU_BJ
30-07-2009, 01:10 PM
Tks for the link JediSkull.
At the end of the day, the one you didnt marry is still your bi-product.
Like it or not, you still have a responsibility to bear whether you marry the rich one of not is another story.
Remember what I told ya, KARMA

JediSkull
30-07-2009, 01:36 PM
yes sir.... its bad karma.... but really I don't think I am up to your level of keeping so many wives. and seriously I know I have let my ex gf down. I understand that fact and it pains me to think about a flesh and blood having to fend himself in china..........:( noone really knows what goes thru in my mind.... sometimes I do tear when nobody's looking. like I said, I suffer emotional damages as well. My heart just goes heavy whenever I think about the other one. Perhaps given some more time, I might be able to reconcile certain issues with my ex gf. I certainly do not wish to destroy other ppl's lives. what happened was unpredicted. my wife once told me that she feels fortunate to marry me. and I find it all the more difficult to break any form of bad news to her. perhaps bad karma will come when i reveal in the later stage of my life. :(

hoosdathu
30-07-2009, 01:47 PM
kudos to jediskull for being man enuff to take responsibility :)

bro big sexy, u too much lah, never read whole story then hurl accusations at TS :(

DO_YOU_BJ
30-07-2009, 01:47 PM
Go read your PM
Have something for you

Big Sexy
30-07-2009, 02:06 PM
i am ok with personal abuse.. no problem with me..
but you look at his 2nd reply..it goes beyond a personal level.
i would like to see if he takes responsibility for that remark..


--------------------------
I believe you are not taught any manners by ur parents (wonder if they are still alive)..



bro big sexy, u too much lah, never read whole story then hurl accusations at TS :(

nirvana
30-07-2009, 02:45 PM
you are the one hiding. not me.person....):rolleyes:


Hi small boy, Big sexy is not hiding,

Pls allow me to arrange for a " meeting " @ yr time, location, date.

You are not comfortable to give out your contact, so is he.



Allow me to add, only ah kua quarrel on internet.

so, are you a ah kua or a man, send me a PM.

Lets not quarrel on internet, make people laugh only.

Pls grow up.

:D

Clyde Frog
30-07-2009, 02:52 PM
You are the Big Sexy and You are Magnanimous!

There's usually a slip of the tongue when there are arguements. JediSkull really shouldn't have posted about parents. Not polite lah. But from what I read, Jediskull already suffered. And he is still suffering. His son leh... I shouldn't comment. These are his karma lah.

One reaps what one sows. It's karma. This life and past life. (I am a buddhist.)

Take one step back and let it go. If JediSkull continues his ways, (but I think he learnt his lesson already lah, won't make another new girl pregant already.), he will sure kena jia lat jia lat.

Take a deep breathe and let it go loh. Give me a call and we go out and eat lah. Go enjoy ourselves. Don't waste precious energy on unhappy thoughts.

nirvana
30-07-2009, 02:53 PM
yes sir.... its bad karma.... e. :(

yes, god will make yr baby all girl. and they will grow up and be make pregant b4 marriage by those black Nigerian staying at little indian.

:D

Clyde Frog
30-07-2009, 03:04 PM
JediSkull,

You are Jedi leh. You have the "Force". Jedi are peace loving warriors. They keep the peace. (Wah, sound so corny, I think I need a drink)

You have a daughter and a son. You need to calm down man. Why concentrate on unhappy thoughts?

Let go. Go have your favourite food or drink some fanta grape or something. Be happy.

nirvana
30-07-2009, 03:09 PM
:(

I had Pm you,

pls reply with a date, time, location.

U want to meet Big sexy, you will get to see the big man.

U wont be disappointed.

Big Sexy
30-07-2009, 03:13 PM
mate..
thanks for making the arrangement..appreciated it.. :)
i wonder if there will be any fool who will exposed their number on the net
why not just meet over coffee and talk...


Pls allow me to arrange for a " meeting " @ yr time, location, date.

nirvana
30-07-2009, 03:17 PM
hmmm... you did raw with both? no precautions? haizzz :(

i think you should be responsible to both girls and tell them the truth. whatever happens, your conscience will be clear :rolleyes:

if it is his Gf, well, he can chose raw or condom... end of the day, it is his gf.

problem is, he got 2 gf.
bigger problem is, he choose to shot inside the cheebye.
biggest problem is, both are pregnant.

i said, he is stupid, his brain maybe as big as a peanut.

this are his problem, ....

he posted here, and he cant accept what other said abt his wrong doing.

So now he want the contact number of Big sexy,
dun need so troublesome,

PM me a date, time, location.

U WILL GET WHAT U ASKED FOR

I love you
^_^

nirvana
30-07-2009, 03:19 PM
mate..
thanks for making the arrangement..appreciated it.. :)
i wonder if there will be any fool who will exposed their number on the net
why not just meet over coffee and talk...

hm....., is his worth your time?

this kind of peanut, pls let me handle.

coffee? AH KUN can?

Lets not post anymore, UGLY. childish also.

I had already PM him, hope to get his good news.

Big Sexy
30-07-2009, 03:22 PM
mate... you know him???
drill it to him... why i wrong to call him a scum and dumbass?

so what if he has admit his mistake... does that mean he is void of the mistake he made? wasnt what he did the act of a scum??? if so then was i wrong to call him one??? now if he really regrets what he did... he wouldnt have defend himself being call a scum.. knn if like that also can... then i might as well go around and rape and apologise and stop people from labeling me a scum.

bottom line is when i call him a scum... it was justified.. because of the actions he did... yes i was harsh but there was no need to bring family into it...


There's usually a slip of the tongue when there are arguements. JediSkull really shouldn't have posted about parents. Not polite lah. But from what I read, Jediskull already suffered. And he is still suffering. His son leh... I shouldn't comment. These are his karma lah.

nirvana
30-07-2009, 03:26 PM
mate... you know him???
drill it to him... why i wrong to call him a scum and dumbass?

so what if he has admit his mistake... does that mean he is void of the mistake he made? wasnt what he did the act of a scum??? if so then was i wrong to call him one??? now if he really regrets what he did... he wouldnt have defend himself being call a scum.. knn if like that also can... then i might as well go around and rape and apologise and stop people from labeling me a scum.

bottom line is when i call him a scum... it was justified.. because of the actions he did... yes i was harsh but there was no need to bring family into it...

No, he is a saint to made 2 gf pregnant, we should be proud abt his acts.

"" Double WHAMMY I got 2 GFs Pregnant ""


lets not post here anymore, lets wait for his reply to my PM box with the Date, time, location or sms me

I going offline... I had Pm-ed him my contact number

JediSkull
30-07-2009, 03:30 PM
tell that to nirvana. I think you are a MCP sia and you will suffer your karma based on what you said earlier..... what's wrong with having daughters only?!(btw i already have a son and I am not trying to boast..... if that's what your mind is thinking?)

and to all those who stand on big_sexy's side. Please brush up your english before you throw anymore insults.

I did not curse Big_sexy when I said:
I believe you are not taught any manners by ur parents (wonder if they are still alive)..

u can ask if my parents are still alive. what's wrong with u guys? which part of the sentence do u not understand? which part of the sentence insults you?
I think that question is legitimately valid with no malicious intent!

This is really getting out of hand. Big_sexy can keep to his current state of mind and be unhappy with me. I'm ok. as for nirvana. your number cannot get thru. and I would like to know what is the purpose of the meetup coz I believe it will not be productive at all. I simply do not have time to meet U GUYS just becoz u all want. LOL weirdos.....

Get this right! Big_sexy came in insulting ppl.... talk about karma? shouldn't life be live and let live? you all wanna play gang and bully people ah? Sorry to say, but due to my kinda of work. I am using hi cards and changing numbers frequently. Not that I am afraid of you but hi card do cost more than a regular line. Its hard to get hold of me unless u'r someone I know personally. You can gather all your bo liao friends and try find my number. But seriously I don't have the time for you and would prefer you to give me a regular contact number instead! been asking from front to end of thread.....I really wonder who is the real ah gua and who is the real man? all I see is Big_sexy hurling insults without much thoughts and having more friends coming in to join the "fun"? Are all of you single? I'm not some uncle who whiles away time drinking beer in some coffeeshop leh!

nirvana
30-07-2009, 03:35 PM
t

u can ask if my parents are still alive.

p leh!

hi daring, i now sending regarding to your parent, tell them I say " hello " , (wonder if they are still alive)

also, I mention, SMS.
dun bother to use private line to call me. :D

Big Sexy
30-07-2009, 03:35 PM
bro funny hor.. after what he did to the girls..
he still think it is wrong for people to call him a scum..
where outside people will already have call him a lanjio lung.. cheebye kia.

what did he expect me to say?
oh good boy.. you admit your mistake liao.. you are a good boy liao...

Wahkao the world is so simple hor.... can fuck around and make girls pregnant but cannot accept criticism like 'scum' goto bring other people family in..


No, he is a saint to made 2 gf pregnant, we should be proud abt his acts.

"" Double WHAMMY I got 2 GFs Pregnant ""


lets not post here anymore, lets wait for his reply to my PM box with the Date, time, location or sms me

I going offline... I had Pm-ed him my contact number

nirvana
30-07-2009, 03:39 PM
bro funny

Wahkao the world is so simple hor.... can fuck around and make girls pregnant but cannot accept criticism like 'scum' goto bring other people family in..

he eat shit or whatever, is his problem lah.

he have a son now, when that sonny grow up, he will be sodomise by those black dick. :D
his daughter? hope she can be a Ang-pai in some HC.

oh, (wonder if they are still alive) :D

nirvana
30-07-2009, 03:41 PM
...I really wonder who is the real ah gua and who is the real man? all I see is Big_sexy hurling insults without much thoughts and having more friends coming in to join the "fun"? Are all of you single? I'm not some uncle who whiles away time drinking beer in some coffeeshop leh!


i already said, Pm me, or sms me.

U want Big Sexy,

U will get BIG AND SEXY :D

I love you baby

Big Sexy
30-07-2009, 03:42 PM
mate... you see what i mean...
it is ok if he screw around and make gals pregnant.. but it is not ok when people give him a piece of what they think..

calling him a scum is too forgiving liao... i should have just straight away ask him about his family members..

tell them I say " hello " , (wonder if they are still alive)

also, I mention, SMS.
dun bother to use private to call me. :D

nirvana
30-07-2009, 03:45 PM
mate... you see what i mean...
it is ok if he screw around and make gals pregnant.. but it is not ok when people give him a piece of what they think..

calling him a scum is too forgiving liao... i should have just straight away ask him about his family members..

just hope his bone is as tough as his words

i dunno if he have some sister, i wish to make them pregnant too. oh sorry, I mean, I wish to say Hi to them, dunno if he will introduce to me anot :D

JediSkull
30-07-2009, 03:49 PM
My current comments are targeted at Big_sexy and nirvana. Both of you are uncultured. Especially nirvana..... looks like you can never be enlightened. you jump into this circus ring without much thoughts and starts insulting my family? I really don't have time for Uncultured and Uncivilised people like Big_sexy and you. As for the zapper, you got to read my words carefully as no sentences were malicious! If people choose to misinterpret what I actually have to say, I have no control over that...... This argument should never have happened if Big_sexy didn't throw any insults on me. I am open to criticism. If you guys have taken this the wrong way, there's really nothing much I can do. I would like to emphasize that I do not mean to be hurtful with the parents comments. If they are dead, I offer my condolences. If they are alive, I pray they live a long and healthy life. My apologies if you have taken that the wrong way. But I feel both of you also owe me an apology each. I'm ok with the scum comment. But what I don't understand is the consistent fuck you pics Big_sexy put up. Talk about being childish!(yes most men are boys at heart, even me!) But seriously y must nirvana bring up such ugly insults when its none of his business in the 1st place? may god have mercy on your soul nirvana. live and let live. got fate we will meet. he bi qiang qiu? y must force circumstances leh?

I cannot help but notice the continuation of insults from the poorly educated nirvana......if you read my earlier posts. I did a small imprint of stating that anymore insults will be thrown directly upon the person himself. you can say how tough and how kiang you are. But you know your true social status level and you have low self esteem. I hope god/buddha will show you the light that in life its really about live and let live..........do not be angry with anyone. seek self improvement please....
hints of using violence to intimidate me?! you should be ashamed of yourself! to even think you are a buddhist(the use of the word nirvana suggested your religion)? I always thought buddhist are peace lovers and only choose non violent methods of protests such such self inflammation? It also promotes the analogy of having balance in life............Disappointed to see you flying into such a rage when the matter doesn't even concern you in the 1st place!

nirvana
30-07-2009, 03:56 PM
Oh, I had requested to say Hello to your parent too,

"If they are dead, I offer my condolences. If they are alive, I pray they live a long and healthy life. My apologies if you have taken that the wrong way."

i love you baby, I am still waiting for your sms. Pls dun bother to use private line to call me, sms me.


baby, i didnt insult you, I love you.

mayb, yr daughter ( wonder if they are still alive) should get pregnant b4 marriage then you will know how the parent of that 2 girl feel right now.

mayb, yr sister (wonder if they are still alive), should get pregnant b4 marriage then you will get to know how her bro feel now.

nirvana
30-07-2009, 04:00 PM
Both of you are uncultured. Especially nirvana..... looks like you can never be enlightened.

I will never be enlightened, but I will never make a girl pregnant with marrying her first. now, it is made 2 girl pregnant!!

talk abt uncultured? so is this yr culture? making girl pregnant? :D

baby, lets stop posting.. it make people laugh,

I had PM u my contact to sms, why not sms me? :D

Big Sexy
30-07-2009, 04:03 PM
JS oh so now it is ok to insult nirvana but you deem it not ok when i called u a scum..

Hero...dont worry...the coffee session will be between me and you..
i have always been a lone ranger... my purpose of meeting you is to know how a scum look.....like i said.. you deserved to be call a scum... because of you you did.. but you have absolutely no reason to say anything about my family..

JediSkull
30-07-2009, 04:12 PM
I am talking to blockheads....... Forget it.... This is my last post here to those bullies who only know how to insult people and not reflect upon their own behaviour before they judge others. Like the buddhist monks who set themselves on fire to protest the evil ongoings. I shall let your unreasonable "baptism of fire" to continue raining on me........


sad......this is like those 批斗(public judgement) rallies that the old communists china had during the cultural revolution....... :( like the hooligan students who brought their teachers to be judged. like the wicked women who brought the wives of landlords to be judged. like the farmers who brought their landlords to be judged. the people who wanted so called justice were the bullies who wanted to dictate other people's lives. but who are they to think they can? and who are they to think of chairman mao as a hero who actually is the villian who ran china's economy into the ruins?!

I seek public reddress.... haiz.....

nirvana
30-07-2009, 04:18 PM
JS oh so now it is ok to insult nirvana but you deem it not ok when i called u a scum..

.

huh, those called insult? hahahaha..
tell u a story..

that day, A quarrel with ah-kua B, Ah Kua B pointed the middle finger toward A, A went over and threw a 1-2 onto Ah Kua B face and broke his nose.

Ah Kua B reported police, court case,
A already had a lawyer standby, the Judge sentence A to 2 week prison.

guess what A did??

A pointed his middle finger to the judge.

the judge re-sentence A to 3 month prison.

then, A lawyer stood up and say, " Your honour, if that is your respond to someone pointing his middle finger at you, can you stand in the shoe of A when other pointed his middle finger?

:D

A walk out the court room with just a $300 fine in the end.

nirvana
30-07-2009, 04:23 PM
I

I seek public reddress.... haiz.....


the public will want your daughter to be make pregnant b4 marriage by a guy who also made other girl pregnant.

the public, will wish to have someone to say hi to your parent ,
"If they are dead, I offer my condolences. If they are alive, I pray they live a long and healthy life. My apologies if you have taken that the wrong way."

baby, i love you

^_^


baby, i will waiting for your sms.

Big Sexy
30-07-2009, 04:25 PM
talk bird language...

bottomline is you fathered 2 child with 2 woman because you did not bother to take precaution.. you then dump one of the mother and kid to fend for themselves... did u even bother to offer them any aid?

and when i called you on it.. you could not accept it..because of all the positive feedback you got previously for admitting your mistake...

hei dude... this is the real world.. you are not going to hear nice things always... if you cannot live with that...and have to insult other people family because of personal difference... you should not be in this world...go back to Mars... where people there are more kind...

nirvana
30-07-2009, 04:30 PM
talk bird language...

bottomline is you fathered 2 child with 2 woman because you did not bother to take precaution.. you then dump one of the mother and kid to fend for themselves... did u even other to offer them any aid?
...

what he expect from his post, Double WHAMMY I got 2 GFs Pregnant,
is samster to envy of him, wow, you so power, got two girl pregnant.

he only want to hear the nice comment make regarding his acts.

he never think, those 2 pity girl got parent too.

And in his world, it is okay to tell someone. " say hello to you parent, if they r still alive "

HE IS NOT WRONG, he is our hero.

oh, I worshipp him

Big Sexy
30-07-2009, 04:36 PM
bro... you read carefully he said.. public 'red-dress' wor..
and he got the cheek to say our ang mo not good enough for him...
HAHAHAHHAHAH.... now he is really making me laugh...damn funny... public reddress..:D


'I seek public reddress.... haiz....'


.

nirvana
30-07-2009, 04:42 PM
bro... you read carefully he said.. public 'red-dress' wor..
and he got the cheek to say our ang mo not good enough for him...
HAHAHAHHAHAH.... now he is really making me laugh...damn funny... public reddress..:D


'I seek public reddress.... haiz....'

he just trying to talk in the same wave-length as me. :D

Schenker
30-07-2009, 04:47 PM
I had Pm you,

pls reply with a date, time, location.

U want to meet Big sexy, you will get to see the big man.

U wont be disappointed.

Woah, how come you so free tdy? No go TNN meh? :D

nirvana
30-07-2009, 04:52 PM
Woah, how come you so free tdy? No go TNN meh? :D

u know i sedom online nowaday, but my Uncle called me, say someone send regarding to my Ah gong and Ah Ma, so I come online look look see see.

He also wanna ask my Uncle out, ... u think I can dun reply meh? :D

TNN? hahaha, when, time?

Big Sexy
30-07-2009, 04:55 PM
wahkao ...that guy sibei funny la....... the more he writes.. the more i want to laugh... write until like he is the victim.... dont know who make the gals pregnant and then dump the mother and kid...

some people are brought up that way.... only can accept compliments but cannot accept disparagement....

'this is like those 批斗(public judgement) rallies that the old communists china had during the cultural revolution....... like the hooligan students who brought their teachers to be judged. like the wicked women who brought the wives of landlords to be judged..........


he just trying to talk in the same wave-length as me. :D

Schenker
30-07-2009, 04:57 PM
u know i sedom online nowaday, but my Uncle called me, say someone send regarding to my Ah gong and Ah Ma, so I come online look look see see.

He also wanna ask my Uncle out, ... u think I can dun reply meh? :D

TNN? hahaha, when, time?

You tempt me with all the Cs and Ds. Me buay tahan liao.

nirvana
30-07-2009, 04:59 PM
You tempt me with all the Cs and Ds. Me buay tahan liao.

join " 18 NN tong "

if u free, sms me , I got new kantuo intro u.

:D

nirvana
30-07-2009, 05:09 PM
My current comments are targeted at Big_sexy and nirvana. Both of you are uncultured. Especially nirvana..... looks like you can never be enlightened. you jump into this circus ring without much thoughts and starts insulting my family? I really don't have time for Uncultured and Uncivilised people like Big_sexy and you. As for the zapper, you got to read my words carefully as no sentences were malicious! If people choose to misinterpret what I actually have to say, I have no control over that...... This argument should never have happened if Big_sexy didn't throw any insults on me. I am open to criticism. If you guys have taken this the wrong way, there's really nothing much I can do. I would like to emphasize that I do not mean to be hurtful with the parents comments. If they are dead, I offer my condolences. If they are alive, I pray they live a long and healthy life. My apologies if you have taken that the wrong way. But I feel both of you also owe me an apology each. I'm ok with the scum comment. But what I don't understand is the consistent fuck you pics Big_sexy put up. Talk about being childish!(yes most men are boys at heart, even me!) But seriously y must nirvana bring up such ugly insults when its none of his business in the 1st place? may god have mercy on your soul nirvana. live and let live. got fate we will meet. he bi qiang qiu? y must force circumstances leh?

I cannot help but notice the continuation of insults from the poorly educated nirvana......if you read my earlier posts. I did a small imprint of stating that anymore insults will be thrown directly upon the person himself. you can say how tough and how kiang you are. But you know your true social status level and you have low self esteem. I hope god/buddha will show you the light that in life its really about live and let live..........do not be angry with anyone. seek self improvement please....
hints of using violence to intimidate me?! you should be ashamed of yourself! to even think you are a buddhist(the use of the word nirvana suggested your religion)? I always thought buddhist are peace lovers and only choose non violent methods of protests such such self inflammation? It also promotes the analogy of having balance in life............Disappointed to see you flying into such a rage when the matter doesn't even concern you in the 1st place!


thanks, some of my buddies here, same sec school with me, know i only last till sec 2. so forgive me for me angmo,

oh, nirvana mean buddist? pls tell this to the band, NIRVANA.

Now you said I poorly enducated, violence,
but... did u know, i wont want to make a girl pregnant without marrying her!!!!!

U want to judge me? my shit is worth more $$ then u.

Anyway, how u want to live your life, is your own concern, that baby is innocent, do you know how life can be if your birth cert dun have the name of a father??



I dun wish to urgue with you, if that baby and mother wish to, i can offer to put my name for her and that baby. every month, i will offer them a small token of $300 ren minbi till he is 18 year old. $60 sing dollar, i can afford and willing to help.

God bless you and forgive this sin

Big Sexy
31-07-2009, 08:19 AM
hey dumbass mummyboy jediskull...

1. You dare say you dont deserved it?
you damn bloody deserved the insult after what you have done to the gals.
what do you expect? people to applaud what you did??? remember they were young students.. how old were you then?? 28, 30??? Knn.. so old still dont know how to think???
http://www.sammyboy.com/images/smilies/up_yours.gif

2. sure i will do it... remember charlieboy, you were the one who said you were going to dig out my particulars first when you said.... (But I definitely got my means to check your identity 1st)

3. why talk so much.. you have a sms number to contact and also a choice to put down the time and date to meet for coffee.. just do it and we shall see who the ball less one is.. Stop hiding under your wife's dress.. you useless dumbshit! http://www.sammyboy.com/images/smilies/up_yours.gif

4. i also pray for your whole family..if they are dead...I offer my condolences. If they are alive, I pray they live a long and healthy life.

5. you really are dumb... this is a open forum.. if you post here.. anyone is entitled to give their own opinion... Knn you can only accept music but not noise???? if you cannot live with that... go back to MAMA Town and be your mummy boy.

6. you got the cheek to say others are poorly educated???? take a look at yourself... what are you?? just an overage dip holder.

7. mate.. your vocabulary is limited and your spelling sucks.. take a look at yourself before you ask others to brush up their angmmo.
Public RED Dress.. damn funny!

8. you dont like the finger sign.. what do you want then?
the moon on a stick??? ok here it goes..:rolleyes:


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1. Get this right! Big_sexy came in insulting ppl....

2. You can gather all your bo liao friends and try find my number.

3. I really wonder who is the real ah gua and who is the real man? all I see is Big_sexy hurling insults without much thoughts and having more friends coming in to join the "fun"? Are all of you single?

4. If they are dead, I offer my condolences. If they are alive, I pray they live a long and healthy life. My apologies if you have taken that the wrong way. But I feel both of you also owe me an apology each.

5. bring up such ugly insults when its none of his business in the 1st place?

6.I cannot help but notice the continuation of insults from the poorly educated nirvana......

7. I seek public reddress.... haiz.....

hardrocksg
31-07-2009, 02:35 PM
What a whimsy crybaby!

1) Be a man, think before you do
2) Can't face the music then don't listen to the song
3) You want to bring such things to public, I am sure you know the consquences.

I do not know much about education but I am sure my family upbringing and school education didn't teach me to be such a bastard as to go around sowing wild oats and yet treating things and humans so callously.

Nirvana and BS, leave this kid alone bah, let him be.
He will one day decide to try to father another one and end up with a rotting dick or closing his eyes to see "HELP" aka AIDS

hardrocksg
31-07-2009, 02:45 PM
I really wonder who is the real ah gua and who is the real man? all I see is Big_sexy hurling insults without much thoughts and having more friends coming in to join the "fun"? Are all of you single? I'm not some uncle who whiles away time drinking beer in some coffeeshop leh!
You talk big, I hope you have a big heart and can act big too.
Talking is cheap and let me tell you something if you think that making a girl pregnant is nothing.
All it takes is a tadpole amongst the big pool and you just need to wait for 10months.

Yes, you are not an uncle who whiles time away drikning beer in coffeeshop.
You are just a sex fiend who preys on girls and act tough trying to discredit people whom you do not know anything about.
Show me something else, please.

nirvana
31-07-2009, 03:07 PM
to the friends of jediskull, if you happen to see him, pls help me say hi,

"If he is dead, I offer my condolences. If he is alive, I pray him live a long and healthy life. My apologies if you have taken that the wrong way."


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I had given him my contact to sms me, but, waited 24hour. no news.
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actually I got a way to get him out 100%, which is to openly post here and FUCK his parent, fuck his monther cheebye.. but, ....he already so hum-ji, I tell him to suck my cock for me, swallow my sperm he also will say it taste nice.

he try to act tough toward my Uncle, Big Sexy, " asking for HP contact " , " sending regarding to the parent "

Mayb he grow up in a nice school, a nice work place, a nice house, he havent taste what it is like to have his face rearrange by just a single punch.
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Anyway, to make a girl pregnant and run away from responsibilty is already the weakest act a man can do.

SHAME ON HIM,

" Double WHAMMY I got 2 GFs Pregnant " any remorse here?

insert this _|_ into yr anal.

nirvana
31-07-2009, 03:12 PM
If you watched Taiwanese Hokkien drama, your 2 gfs will bear u a son and a daughter. 18 years later, they may meet each other in university and fall in love. just when they are about to get married 5 years later, you realise the other mum is your wife too.. and then....


Bro, evil evil...:D

the son or daugther will be called a bastard, what if they both fuck each other and get a baby, what will that baby be call?
grand-bastard?

nirvana
31-07-2009, 03:19 PM
bro, I know i am a bastard......... but I'm now trying to solve the problems I created. I dun think I am wrong in that sense....... :(

(PS:My original nick WAS numbskull.)

forgive my english not so good, I go check dickionary,

Bastard Definition | Definition of Bastard at Dictionary.com (http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/bastard?o=100074)

–noun
1. a person born of unmarried parents; an illegitimate child.

–adjective
5. illegitimate in birth.

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Sorry, didnt know you dun know who is your dad.

"If he is dead, I offer my condolences. If he is alive, I pray him live a long and healthy life. My apologies if you have taken that the wrong way."

that night, he should have put it out, spread onto the floor and feed it to cockroach.


this song for you

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m3WHYuDbF9I&feature=related

^_^

Xgenre
31-07-2009, 03:36 PM
if u free, sms me , I got new kantuo intro u.

wah lau, got kantao never intro me. i got kantao intro u leh. waiting for u in msn. 1 21 yr old butch, 1 43 yr old aunty. plus i need some green vitamins. now i know why eyes turn blue liao.

Big Sexy
31-07-2009, 03:47 PM
opening fuck his family in public also no use... i tried that already...i thought his baby gal got no lan par who knows he also no lanpar... nbz.. now i think maybe his whole family also no lanpar...:D

he this type of lan jiao lang is like that la.. he think it is ok when he insult other people's family.... when we insult his family... he say we are uncultured and uncivilised...Tiu!

you jump into this circus ring without much thoughts and starts insulting my family? I really don't have time for Uncultured and Uncivilised people like Big_sexy and you.'

some more he dare seek public redress {reddress}
he is a xia suay to his tiko group.. the fact that his group members never support him say alot about him.....




actually I got a way to get him out 100%, which is to openly post here and FUCK his parent, fuck his monther cheebye.. but, ....he already so hum-ji, I tell him to suck my cock for me, swallow my sperm he also will say it taste nice.


mate... he doesnt know what is a open forum...he this type of people can only accept praises..give him abit of sticks and he starts to ask about other people family.. he is lucky it is in a forum .. if he does that in the real world... he wont live another day asking about other people parents......that ball less assshit.


You want to bring such things to public, I am sure you know the consquences.